Help me out? Marriage between First cousins.

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should not you be calling yourself almostkashmiri

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The cousin thing is no longer an acceptable practice in the educated segments of society. I don't want to sound harsh but it is considered dated, something associated with the lower and uneducated strata of the society. Other than the most obvious YUK you are in love with your cousin?!?, the cons completely outweigh the pros. So please NO NO NO YUK NO

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He has already pretty much told you that he will get a 2nd wife in the future. Whether its this other girl he's supposedly seeing in Pakistan or not does not matter. If he finds a pretty girl who is willing to be his 2nd wife....he will marry her. Now its time for you to decide whether or not you're ok with sharing your husband with another woman. Keep in mind that once he gets his green card in America, there is NOTHING that prevents him from divorcing you. So again...think about if you're ok with taking that type of risk with your future.

Well, if this guy gets a 2nd wife after marrying you OR decides to divorce you.....then YOU are the one living with the consequences.....not your mother. What's more important to you? If you think the risk of him marrying another woman or being a divorcee in the future is worth fulfilling this "dream" your mother has.....then go for it. Only YOU can answer this question b/c you will be the one living with the consequences of your actions.

You have a Bachelor's degree?

1) Get a life! Seriously....get a life! If you already have a Bachelor's degree....get a masters. Go volunteer somewhere. Get a hobby. You not having a life is clearly having a negative effect on your thinking, and this will end up causing you a lot of heartache in the future.

2) If you have no interest in ever working.....then its STUPID to marrying a guy from Pakistan and import him here....especially if there is a rumor that he will divorce you afterwards. You want to not ever work? Then focus on looking very pretty, GET A LIFE so you can hold a interesting conversation, and find yourself a rich man here in the U.S. If the man you marry is rich (by U.S. standards), at least you can get enough $ to support yourself until you find a 2nd husband if he divorces you instead of having to crawl back to your parents b/c you can't earn $ to pay the bills yourself.

3) If you're "super americanized".....that would be another reason NOT to marry someone from Pakistan.

4) The cousin thing.....again.....this goes to show you lack of life experience/knowledge. This is allowed in Islam so from a religious perspective, there is nothing wrong with it. But there are many Muslim families (mine is one of them) where cousins are raised as brothers/sisters and the idea of marrying one cousin to another is not ever an option. So once again, this is something only YOU can decide. Pakistanis won't think this is weird. But if your Bosnian or "American" friends find out you married your 1st cousin.....the reaction you get may not be positive.

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Can we perhaps get the dude's story in here? Someone have him sign up here and reply to this thread.

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leave him. focus on your life. plus whose going to support him to come to america if you don't want to work? you're only 18.. still bit immature i think. and i do feel for your sister how did she react when you said yes? its bit naive to think it will all be hunky dory when he comes to amreeeekaaa.. only to leave you? think carefully.

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Please don't do this. If you are old enough to get married, you are old enough to make a decision for yourself and take responsibility for it. Only marry someone you want to make a home and life with. It might seem like you're being a good daughter, but you're really just being irresponsible.

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Please do not marry him. He will make your life miserable.

Regards,
AlmostGandumi

( 1/8 Kashmiri + 3/8 Afriki + 2/8 Angraiz + 2/8 Middle Eastern )

PS: If this story is for real, fact that you have to "ask" this question tells that you are not ready for shadi wadi. Go to school kid and enjoy princess movies.

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Lol. The fact you graduated college at 18 isn't a huge feat, but it seems like you wanna marry the guy, so why are you looking for other people's opinions? Just cause he's you're cousin? šŸ˜‚ I'm married to my cousin, who just like your cousin grew up in Pakistan. We're blessed with the most perfect life ever.

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You are Amreekanized so why would you take the trouble and marry out of your country ? Aren't there guys in amreeka ? And why would anyone want to marry their cousin? its almost like incest to me. Lastly....he will be marrying you to come to amreeka ? seems like a bhikari who has probably never traveled outside in his life...and we know what their caliber is....

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people these days :rolleyes: