Re: Help Me (cont'd from HF)
In a situation like this , limit your dealing /conversation with the inlaws ... try to ignore coming infront of them ... in other words , start drawing a visible distance between yourself and them , that way you might be able to reduce unnecessary tentions or them finding another opportunity to abuse you.
In the meantime , keep talking to your husband and start planning when would be the right time for you two to move out. I dont think you must consider leaving your husband coz you love him and he is supportive of you. and he is definitely not enjoying being the middle man either .... so start planning the exit strategy , from this house...
look for answers to the following questions :
Whats holding your husband back into the house?
If its the finances , how can you save or find additional resources to afford a separate living.
If its the husbands wish to get the sisters married first before he moves out , then push your husband to look for proposals , help him with the search .. so that together you two can get over with the responsiblity ..
We are just listening to your side of the story , inlaws might have their own side of the story, ask yourself , if you are unknowingly provoking them in anyway? if you are satisfied that you are not , then tell your husband that in the current circumstancs the best strategy is that you refrain yourself to your part of the house , only go to the kitchen or where ever , if absolutely necessary. This is to avoid any further conflicts ... until you find better and permanent solutions to this issue.
is there any other member in the house who is leel headed? your FIL for example? or any other influential member in their family , like an elder ? involve them in finding proposals for the SIL's ... just focus on that , the quicker that happens the better it will be for your husband and you .....