Dearest everyone,
I know this may seem a little silly, but me and my “Fiance” or “husband” are living in different countries. We did Nikah, but not rukhsati (even though we wanted to do rukhsati, but couldnt due to various reasons, such as parents not ready for a wedding) I have moved to UK and he is in Pakistan. I am finding it VERY difficult for us to live apart. We speak on the phone everyday, but i cannot stop crying, because i want to be with him and I love him and miss him so much to the extent that it is depressing me and on anti depressants because of it. Has anyone else been in this situation and if so, how do you deal with it? He seems to cope better then me, but we both want to be together arrrggghh!!! He keeps telling me to come to Pakistan and when his parents are ready, we can get “married”. This way, we can still be “together”. He cannot come here, due to Visa issues, and also, he doesnt want to come until we are “married”, so there is no choice but me to go there. Shall i go there and live there until we have our wedding?
Thank you!!
BunnyHoney
well bunnyhoney, i can relate. i got married a year and a half ago, and have had problems with trying to get my husband's visa. we've been apart longer than together, and it aches. it can be hard for other peple to understand what you're going through, but at least you know your partner knows how you feel.
Me and hubby have coped by texting, phoning, chatting on messenger, it's really hard sometimes, but you just have to have some sabar.
finally, how long would you go to pakistan for to stay? cos if you apply for his visa at some point in the near future, the pakistani embassy may say to you why don't you live with him in Pakistan as you stayed there with him anyway? They said this to me, though i was only there for 5 weeks after the wedding. I don't know if they say this a lot lol, but be aware of it!
good luck and have patience, and be thankful that you have each other :)
you gave up Kalifornia for the UK? 
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it does get hard at times..but don't let it bother you so much that you get depressed..IA your marriage will be worth the wait :)
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Poor thing, I can only imagine how difficult it must be to live so far away from your husband! If it is depressing you to the extent that you are on anti-depressants, then I think you should try to go over to Pakistan and be with him there, even if its only for a few weeks or a couple of months. Or maybe you guys can meet halfway in some other country every couple of months. Just hang in there and try not to get depressed. Try to keep yourself busy with other activities, I know you will obviously still miss him alot, but maybe keeping busy will help keep your mind occupied and make the waiting a little bit easier inshallah
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I went through it and it wasn't easy but worth the wait. so hang on, we talked on the phone everyday and emailed eachother, that kept me going.