Okay people help me out over here…what to do when the person you’re about to get married to is heartless and doesn’t care at all?
This person is sweet while talking and keeps in touch with me and all but he doesn’t feel any emotions at all. He says he has never cried. He doesn’t feel sad or the pain. He doesn’t really know what love is so theres no love in his heart…the reason why he is getting married is because we clicked and that we hit it of not because he fell in love or anything. and I know that if I ever tell him that I have issues and that I want to leave him he wouldn’t really feel bad/sad or hurt…he will just want the relationship to go on so he might try to stop me but it won’t effect his life and he’ll go on with his life…He is not capable of makeing a girl not only me but any girl happy by doing anything special for her he just doesn’t know how to…he is not at all romantic either not even a little bit…its like I talk to a robot…who just sends me a message in the morning when he calls me princess but apart from that there is nothing romantic what so ever about him to make things worse he is like I admit I am heartless because its true and I don’t know why but I am happy the way I am…Whats there to be done about this issue? do such people ever change? How do these people even start feeling if they have no feelings and emotions at all? and this is kinda serious for me so please keep lame jokes and BS away from this thread :).
Re: Heartless people, do/can they ever change?
I don’t understand some women. Why would you stay with a man who does not give you emotional support? There have to be feelings for a relation to survive in the long term.
There is no point in staying with a person who cares no less if you stay with him or go.
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I think OP is wrong here, there are people who do not express their feeling easily that does not mean they do not have feeling. I am sure he loves her only issue he does not express in the way OP would like to hear.
After 30 years of marriage i myself do not know if really loves my wife, all i know despite so many difference she is best wife for me, best mother for my children, and I am lucky to have her. Although she is unlucky one to have me because in one of the heartless type OP is talking about.
Heartless people, do/can they ever change?
Fizza4u i tottaly agree, talking from exp the only advice i can give you is those types of people dont change, but its up to you if you belv u can mould him or not, i went on that little journey thinking i could change him but it honestly took every bit of emotion and strength out of me i personally couldnt function properly because i was busy changing him, but the conclusion i made after 3 years of heartache that he is a person and im my own person i have no right to change him and he has no right to change me, you have to respect eachother for who you are and serz im noy calling you selfish like i was selfish for even thinking i could change him, the only thing i could change was our fate which i did by walking away and letting him be and ive been happily married for a year now and i got the man that i needed, serz its not worth hanging around and if its not what you want then there will never be love just compromise and you got to question is that what you really want? do you love him? bcoz love is sacrifice too and u never know he may get in great with another chick and you may click with someone else but if you see abit of hope of him changing then go for it life is a journey and whatever you face a new experience but all i can say is never have regrets :)
Heartless people, do/can they ever change?
Okies please dont take this the wrong way but TS despite u knowing that you may be affecting your wife or her wanting some emotional support and you realising your doing it then dosnt that make you abit hmm selfish bcoz u know and r fully aware of it but still arnt doing anything about it?? U say shes a great wife great mother to ur kids but u know your emotionless, think about it theres soo much she does for u perhaps doing somethng romantic for her know and then would make her feel special which i belv every husband should make his wife feel and serz a man can b emotional behind closed doors and im sure your wife wont ruin your masculine image infront of others haha
You need to tell him how you feel about this just like you told us. If nothing happens then maybe he is not three person you should bee with. Especially how this is a big deal for you.
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ahh..the effects of holly,bolly,lolly etc etc