Re: HEALING
mwp you are very right.
aside from that, if you love your spouse, they ARE what they ARE and you love them....if they did not have their "prior experiences" then they wouldnt be the person they are today yeah? Assume that your life starts the day that you meet and take it from there.
Youngster-hood is rife with mistakes and so it should be. The best way to learn a lesson and learn it well is to make the mistake for yourself. Pay the consequences then grab yourself by the boot straps and get yourself back up. Nothing wrong with that. not at all. someone who makes you pay and pay for past mistakes forever and ever, well thats no basis for a marriage or any kind of enduring relationship. If its something that you cant deal with, well then just DONT deal with it and find someone else.