a blessed partnership with a spouse is based on unconditional love, and dedication to keep her/him happy, close and deal with them in kindness & with warmth.
to your mind, how can true healing be offered to spouses, for something that happened in the life prior to getting married?
can such a void, anguish, be compensated?
i am hopeful, that it can be. would like to hear from others, how?
chime.
dushi
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There is no such thing as unconditional love; especially in a marriage. The closest love gets to being unconditional is in the form of a mother's love.
Time is the greatest healer. If time cannot heal, then the chance of getting healing from a spouse are not that bright.
Dush: I am happy to see that the trendline of your questions has finally started ti sway away from the only negative questions.
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thanks Witch-Dr.
one day, I will attribute that to someone who lately inspired me to these questions. Credit is due, none the less. :>
Time is the greatest healer. If time cannot heal, then the chance of getting healing from a spouse are not that bright.
Dush: I am happy to see that the trendline of your questions has finally started ti sway away from the only negative questions.
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I use to underestimate it but, sense of humor really makes relationships strong.
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mwp you are very right.
aside from that, if you love your spouse, they ARE what they ARE and you love them....if they did not have their "prior experiences" then they wouldnt be the person they are today yeah? Assume that your life starts the day that you meet and take it from there.
Youngster-hood is rife with mistakes and so it should be. The best way to learn a lesson and learn it well is to make the mistake for yourself. Pay the consequences then grab yourself by the boot straps and get yourself back up. Nothing wrong with that. not at all. someone who makes you pay and pay for past mistakes forever and ever, well thats no basis for a marriage or any kind of enduring relationship. If its something that you cant deal with, well then just DONT deal with it and find someone else.
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thanks, Mamaof3.
this is so true.
may we all think like this and have a very strong bonds, when we form them.
dushi
aside from that, if you love your spouse, they ARE what they ARE and you love them....if they did not have their "prior experiences" then they wouldnt be the person they are today yeah? Assume that your life starts the day that you meet and take it from there.
Youngster-hood is rife with mistakes and so it should be. The best way to learn a lesson and learn it well is to make the mistake for yourself. Pay the consequences then grab yourself by the boot straps and get yourself back up. Nothing wrong with that. not at all. someone who makes you pay and pay for past mistakes forever and ever, well thats no basis for a marriage or any kind of enduring relationship. If its something that you cant deal with, well then just DONT deal with it and find someone else.