He acts like he doesn't care

iMakeUpLover · March 24, 2015, 9:10pm

Re: He acts like he doesn’t care

OP,

Even your mom will eventually snap if you were to frequently ask her, “Do you love me? Do you care about me?” Replace mom with dad or sibling or best gal pal or replace fiance with some other guy and that person will eventually become irritated. How often do your parents or siblings tell u they love you? I bet it’s not often…and I bet you don’t require them to tell you that they love you because you know that they do despite the ups and downs.

I am more emotional than my sister so when I vent to her about work or a family member…I won’t get very far. She’ll tell me to get over it…especially if I’ve been venting a lot. I’ve been on the giving end of rant and wasn’t aware it was taking a toll on friends until they told me. And I’ve also felt exasperated hearing a loved one go on n on about an issue. So, think about whether you’re venting is excessive cuz it can be draining. And not everything is worth venting about…it’s good to let some things slide. Responding with a joke helps to diffuse the tension of a vent and if u rant a lot then eventually the other person will want to change the subject.

Why would he apologize to you if you’re always the one to say sorry and you have thus given him the impression that ur always wrong and he’s never at fault? Or maybe he doesn’t apologize for every error because he thinks that there should be greater tolerance/laxity in the relationship. Why would he make plans when you are always the one to make them? Why would he contact you if you are always the first to call him? Why would he make the effort if he’s become comfortable in the knowledge that u’ll always do the work? Why should he pursue you if you are the one chasing him? Maybe one of the reasons he was so attentive in the beginning was because you came across as more carefree whereas now you’re more clingy? Maybe I’m wrong…but it’s something to consider. It can be exhausting to a person if they’re being clung to. Take a break from him and have fun living ur life…or try to. Give him the chance to miss you. And if he’s still acts distant or cold then think about whether this marriage is right for u.

Hmm, perhaps you’re right. I’ll take your advice. Thanks