Having someone in your life.

Lifestyle Relationships
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I mean how you deal with it initially ?

Suppose you are raised in different family structure. Where not talking to anyone or staying quiet at home for days together is normal.(no one notices)

Not just that, If you want you can avoid seeing ppl living in the same house, that is ok too.

What then all of a sudden some one wants to come into your life? Wants to know things…
I mean what if your ‘normal’ silent span is few days long AND theirs’ few hrs??

Do you change then??

What if no there to tell you if that change is good and about time.

:hmmm:

I mean hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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DANG- silent span of a few days?! I feel so bad for my guy now since my normal silent span is a few minutes usually :D

Anyways, I know my dad lived by himself abroad for a very long time and he was a very quiet person too- my mom says that was her biggest adjustment since she came from a big family. It's the same as with a friend, you find/create your relationship in the beginning- based on what level you both are on and go from there. Change, in such cases, always happens and why would you need someone else to tell you its okay, you're a big boy right?!

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Whats happened Jimmy, have u met someone?

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jee

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Jimmy what happen to the girl with the good body?

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:eek:

I am only silent when i am sleeping, no wait, i sleep talk No i am never silent :smiley:

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dude few days is too too long ... i can't even be silent when i'm by myself ... i'm usually humming something ... but yeah once you are with someone you kinda srota have to open up and invite them to your life because thats pretty much wat relationships are

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I find it disturbing when a person you are supposed to share your life with disappears into silent mode for too long. A few hours every now n again is understandable, more regularly than that, it's not my cup of tea.

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I don't know why your post makes me chuckle, JimmyKimble. I don't know.

Probably because I was thinking of something very similar today. I was thinking about how one feels about their control over their lives when they start a relationship. I have noticed that when I include people in my life to get my stuff done, there is a lot more chaos, a lot more can go wrong because there are more variables. When its just me, there are limited variables, limited number of changes that have a higher probability of taking place. When I started my relationship, I didn't have any of that chaos emerge. I don't know why. But my SO keeps saying that ever since we started going out, he has faced more variables/changes in his life.

Both your question and my wondering have to do with the amount of control you feel the need for vs. the exploratory nature. I am a bit more exploratory when it comes to us, which means that I was more than happy to explore my life, with him in the picture. But he likes his daily life to be a bit more predictable, which it wasn't, moreso because I was exploring him, us, me, my life, his life etc. more in the beginning of the relationship.

When it comes to being quiet, it has to do with different temperaments. I guess it takes some getting used to. I had to learn to leave him alone for a good part of the day, for him to feel more in control of his day.

Though, a silent span of a couple days, in my opinion, is long. Ok, another example. My SO and I often take breaks. These breaks help us refocus our time and attention on ourselves. We especially need those if we start feeling that we're not as much in touch with our own selves. Over the course of our relationship, I have needed those a lot less than he has. He needs more time for himself.

For you, its hopefully just a habit that you can take care of. But if it doesn't happen too often, you might be fine with it, as long as the other person recognizes your need for it - which would be difficult to do and will require you to be patient as well.

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^I am glad you posted :)

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If you care about that someone in your life, you will try to do things to accomodate them...itna mushkil kaam nahin hota agar insaan sahi maanon mein karna chahe.

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:hmmm: am glad to know tht there’s someone else on gs with a ‘silent span of a few days’…feels good to knw there’s someone who’s like u:@:

but when u get someone in yr life, it’s best if u adjust a bit to their ways and they adjust a bit to yr way..so both of u will change and put in yr efoorts to understand eachother…that way u’ll have a harmonious relationship…and remember communication plays a major part in relationships:)