having really hard and painful life .

[Mirch]

@phooljari786

That is soo easy to say but no one realizes how hard “dumping” can be. In Islam and def. in the Pakistani culture there is no dumping. Most girls have to suck it up and be with their husbands for their families sake. This means so that the family is not badnaamed, the girl continues to be with her husband no matter what because she does not want to bring shame to her family. Of course when it comes to abuse then the girl must take her life seriously and then and only then give up her marriage to save herself. Abuse meaning not just light tapping or anything but actual hitting sad to say. I know the girl shopuld divorce if its bigb life threatning reason but do know that in the Pakistani/Indian culture people talk. A girl in my mosque got divorced and the whole mosque looked down on her and thought less of her. Who knows what really happened but my Mom does. She is very good friends with the guys parents who told her what the girl did. I won;t even start about that. Anyways, see the thing is, in Islam a girl cannot divorce becaase of small matters. She must suck it up and try it out. Soon enough she finds out the first year of marriage was hard and from then on its going to be okay. Not romantic or lovey dovey but okay. I used to think it was so hard and wantyed to quit but stuck it out and its not so bad. I know a girl whose huisband acted like this ones and now after three years of marriage they have been on a few vacations and he treats her much better.

I just want to clarify, that Islam does not like Divorce but even a women has the right to ask for divorce it is called Khula in Islamic dictionary not a Talaq but it is essentialy the same thing and look at the following ahadees there is no metion of life threatning situations for a women to ask for a Khula:
*Partial Translation of Sunan Abu-Dawud, Book 12: *](http://www.usc.edu/schools/college/crcc/engagement/resources/texts/muslim/hadith/abudawud/satintro.html)

Book 12, Number 2219:
Narrated Habibah, daughter of Sahl al-Ansariyyah:
Amrah, daughter of AbdurRahman ibn Sa’d ibn Zurarah, reported on the authority of Habibah, daughter of Sahl al-Ansariyyah: She (Habibah) was the wife of Thabit ibn Qays ibn Shimmas. The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) came out one morning and found Habibah by his door.
The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) said: Who is this? She replied: I am Habibah, daughter of Sahl. He asked: What is your case? She replied: I and Thabit ibn Qays, referring to her husband, cannot live together.
When Thabit ibn Qays came, the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) said to him: This is Habibah, daughter of Sahl, and she has mentioned (about you) what Allah wished to mention.
Habibah said: Apostle of Allah, all that he gave me is with me.
The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) said to Thabit ibn Qays: Take it from her. So he took it from her, and she lived among her people (relatives).

Book 12, Number 2220:
Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu’minin:
Habibah daughter of Sahl was the wife of Thabit ibn Qays Shimmas He beat her and broke some of her part. So she came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) after morning, and complained to him against her husband. The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) called on Thabit ibn Qays and said (to him): Take a part of her property and separate yourself from her. He asked: Is that right, Apostle of Allah? He said: Yes. He said: I have given her two gardens of mine as a dower, and they are already in her possession. The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: Take them and separate yourself from her.

Book 12, Number 2221:
Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas:
The wife of Thabit ibn Qays separated herself from him for a compensation. The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) made her waiting period a menstrual course.