Re: Having kids
I understand where she's coming from...I have 3 beautiful boyz and I do count my blessings. I would really love to have a little girl too though. But aside from the fact that it would be insane for me to have another, I honestly dont think it would happen. I had 2 miscarriages - one a girl for sure and the other likely a girl. I think that for some reason, I just cant have girls. With your friend, perhaps she is not able to have boys. I have no science to back me up here, only what I suspect....
Maybe tell her this. That if she has another one, her chances of having another girl are enourmous. I hope she will be able to focus on regaining better health but perhaps she needs some help there? Post-partum depression can be a big factor here and with the death of her baby, I imagine she must be very sad. Maybe you could suggest that she have a long talk with her doc about the whole thing - a good doc would also tell her to regain better health before making a decision to try again. You risk the health of a developing baby if you arent a healthy mom.
Prayers for her!