having friends of opposite gender after being committed/married

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Re: having friends of opposite gender after being committed/married

@sweefs

yeah, it depends on your definition of friendship. some people view friends as just there to go out and enjoy company with once in a while, not really sharing any personal details about each other etc. whereas others view friends as a support mechanism, who they can rely on to be there during rough times (venting about frustrations is different). former is fine, latter can get tricky if they are of the opposite sex. to be honest, i think if you’re doing a lot of the latter with the opposite sex then it kind of makes friendship a blurry line and harder to not remain platonic from one end or the other. add a husband/wife to the mix and that’s even more tricky.

it just depends on the couple. as long as you’re mindful of the other person’s feelings and realise that sometimes friendships need to take a backseat then it’s fine.

Pretty much sums up how I feel. I have 6 friends - ones who I would gladly go to the ends of the earth for even at great suffering to myself. I have thousands of acquaintances - people I went to school/college/uni with, colleagues through the years, friends of friends, friends of cousins, people who I considered friends at some stage in my life etc etc. I think people need to distinguish between friends as in those you trust with your deepest and darkest secrets (and them with you) and people who you see in group situations or every now and then or were perhaps close to back in the day.