I really miss having a close circle of friends like I used to at college, uni etc. I’m 35 now so that was all a while ago and I seem to have lost touch with those friends or have only very casual contact because of one reason or another. I really feel like its a big gap in my life. Now I only really have a couple of close friends and feel my social life is really limited because of a lack of friends. Also, I miss being able to jus pick up the phone and chat about random things on a daily basis.
Have others gone through similar experiences? and how can I increase my social circle?
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I think u should be more active. Get out more engage in activities which involve regular contact with other people.. Maybe u can start an exercise class or a dance class. You're bound to meet people there. Do you work? If not maybe you can start finding some new people to engage with. What about organising a re-union? We do that regularly to stay in contact with old friends.
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I hated uni. So glad it's over!
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friends? who/what are they?
u need to attend 2-3 jumma's khutba and u will end up making alot of friends from the mosque ....
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i feel your pain, ajuba. as of sunday, my last close friend in town has informed me that he too is moving away. i'm not much of a phone person, and i'm pretty sure soon i'll be talking to him once a year or so. much like the dozen i've already lost.
there are plenty of ways to make new friends, but the ones you made in carefree days with no social prejudices like in school and uni days, real hard to replace.
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You'l have to get yersel some cats Queer. :(
there are plenty of ways to make new friends, but the ones you made in carefree days** with no social prejudices **like in school and uni days, real hard to replace.
100% agree.
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i also feel like that as the life progress, i miss my real friends who are now scattered around the world. friends you meet in school, college, uni are not replaceable at all. whatever i found later are just not the real friends!
i do keep contact once in a while with my childhood, college and uni friends as i prefer not to lose contact with real and sincere friends. its not like seeing them in week or month but something atleast.
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I have no childhood or high school friends. I do have friends from college that all live in the same city..but we hardly see each other.
Thanks for your replies guys. I know I just have to get out there and socialise more and in different ways...seems like such an effort though!! friendships back in uni/college days seemed effortless. We used to have such a laugh. I feel like I haven't laughed like that in years.
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why dont you try contacting your school/college/uni friends through Facebook or Phone etc?
recalling old fun days with your old friends can not be replaced with anything.
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I have lost contact with my high school friends. dont have any uni friends and have new friends where I live now but I feel its not the same kind of friendships as I have had with those earlier.
I think we grow out of the 'lets be best friends' thing....
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Making or losing friends is not a big deal.Life is like that.It keeps on moving.Afterall where is time for all these stuffs?You can have friends for your leisure time and other than that,I do not think they will play a big part in your life.
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Gosh I hate it when people don't answer the original question and then veer off with their own opinions. Like your question was dumb to begin with. Anyways you want to know how to increase your social circle. If you know a personal interest, hobby, class you're interested in, go out into your community and become involved. Take classes, join a club, a sport. You'll meet people you have things in common with are actively involved with. Or at your place of worship, volunteer be active. Join a book club, try meetup.com ?
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You can also organize events where geographically dispersed friends can join in, i.e. the internet. You can have periodic audio/video chat events or start building something. I'm sure your friends want to stay in touch with you as well, just come up with excuses to do so.
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take admission in some uni again; make good friends ... laugh and enjoy with them... incraese your social circle and have fun :D
I am looking in to exercise classes and stuff. its just a question of organinsing a babysitter but I know I just need to get off my back side and start getting involved in stuff.
I don't really want to go back to uni just for the sake of making friends. and anyway it wouldn't be the same now as I have a family n stuff so it wouldn't be like the old days when you could just hang out with friends without having to worry about anyone else.
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I miss my friends too. They all left the country although I am in touch with them, but still not the same.
I have found couple of "friends" if you can really call that - parents at my kids school. But not the same as it used to be. I guess we all mellow as time goes by...but heck mellow is sooo boring :(
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I only have 1 friend left from school day's and 1 from previous college.
I have in total just 3 best friends and i will try damn hard to keep hold on to them. I just can't imagine loosing them :(
Overall, i have countless friends/mates but these 3 people hold a special place in my life and i have no intention of loosing them.