Alright so today in my sociology class our prof was going and on about how women are deciding to have children later in life. And by later we’re talking late 30’s early forties. The reasons are fairly logic, since more and more women are persuing proffessional careers they must delay pregnancy until their careers are fairly established. What do you think of this? I mean there are constan reports from the media that having children at a later age isn’t exactly a good thing, but then again women who are 55 are having children too. Ladies where do you think you will/have draw the line? And men…how would you feel if you wife would say that she doesnt want to have children until her career is established or until she accomplishes whatever goals she had in mind?
Re: Having children at an "older" age
A woman hits her peak fertility at the age of 22. After about 35, A LOT can go wrong with pregnancies, and conception can be quite difficult simply because the eggs are a lot older. These women who are conceiving or carrying pregnacies at 55 are only doing so with hormonal treatment, plus I really don't see why someone would wanna do that, you'd be more of a grandmother than a mother to the child. The age gap widens, plus general health of the mother starts to deteriorate yada yada.
Personally, I'd like to have kids before my mid-thirties insha'Allah.
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I thought most women hit menopuse at the age of 50ish? I would prefer that my wife and I have kids by early 30's. I don't want to die when my child is in his/her teens.
Re: Having children at an "older" age
best time for a woman to bear kids is around 18...thats why women shudnt work
all that career shareer gets in the way of a woman's primary duty that is to make babies and make her husband the happiest man on earth..its very simple if u think abt it logically and not cave into this feminist BS
Re: Having children at an "older" age
This is the trade-off problem of this day and age. Women today want education and careers, good income etc. Nothing wrong with that. But since the possibilities are so vast now, women (and men too) dont really know "who they are" or "what they want" from life until they are older. Those who marry young and have babies while young havent really had enough time to know themselves yet and thats one of the reasons for such a high rate of divorce. They mature and grow apart, or the woman feels cheated because the opportunity to persue a career was denied her.
But having babies in your 30s is filled with risk. Been there done that...the woman's eggs are more mature which makes miscarriage and birth defects good possibilities...infertility a good possibility....also, the uterine arteries are closing down, becoming smaller year by year in preparation for menopause. Insufficient blood flow to the uterine arteries can cause problems to a developing baby because they dont get enough nutrients to develop properly.
I wish with all my heart that my prince charming had come along about a decade earlier! If you are blessed enough to know yourself and what you want out of life, what you want in a partner, dont put off babies for the sake of more income, more "toys" a closet full of shoes...in the end these things really dont matter. Healthy babies, a loving family, a happy home is vastly more important and fulfilling thing to have.
I am so very blessed to have my prince charming and my 3 beautiful boys. But forever I am wondering if the problems that my eldest boy has are due to my age....forever I am exhausted cause I'm no spring chicken and i spend the day running after 3 little monkeys ...now my youngest may need surgery on his hip....being a mommy is physically and emotionally exhausting! Not in a bad way, but there it is. Having a career may be tiring but it is also intellectually stimulating, a vastly different mode of operation.
That said, I still think I'm one of the luckiest women on the planet....the only thing I'd ever change is to have met my prince 10 years earlier.b