S_and_S
November 11, 2015, 7:15am
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Re: Having an atheist spouse
I know so many married Muslim women who’re looking for mahrams for haj. Their husbands are willing to finance the haj (some not even that) but flat out refuse to go. Just because someone does not go out and out say they’re atheists that doesn’t mean they’re practicing muslims. So, I know a ton of women who’re are living with non-practicing men.
Since they’re middle aged old school women their preferences of lifestyle are not really important or relevant to the general public. If they divorced their husbands for not praying or drinking, eyes would roll en mass. Even among the younger lot I’ve seen girls who were covered up before marriage but post marriage they wear off shoulder dresses. One girl I know was divorced for not wearing sleeveless (The husband’s not so former girlfriend was a more modern dresser so by not competing she gave up). People still ridicule her for such a dumb reason for divorce.
Imagine the fuss if the genders were reversed. A namazi guy’s ghairat is expected to wake up if his wife keeps a ton of male friends, drinks a lot, wears revealing clothes and doesn’t pray etc but women just need to accept such behaviour from their spouse.
Ive seen this double standard in other scenarios too. “Husbands not so former gf” is pretty good reason in it of itself but ofcourse she should have fought harder according to most is all to a common way of thinking in our community unfortunately.