Re: Having a 2nd girl
tell them to grow up and not spoil ure moment of happiness... your wife will be pushing the living daylights out of herself, delivering a child is not easy, and she deserves a smiling face and lots of duas wherever she looks, once she is done delivering.
dont let ure own dissappointment be apparent in front of your parents or it may give them a reason to act up even more. infact tell them that they have from now until the birth of the child to come to grips with reality, and that u dont want to hear a word bout it being a girl.... gotta be mature about this. insaan ko insaan hi rehna chahiye, khuda nahi :)
and whilst im at it, u grow up too. a child is a child, be it girl or boy. infact, girls dont have to change their names when they get married, its a very desi thing to do.. arabs dont.. they keep their fathers name.. so continue the family name by not having ure girls change their name once they get married :)
p.s) sorry if my post is harsh.. but im pregnant too these days, expecting my first.. and everything that im going thru with the physical exhaustion, night sickenss, cramps, headaches, and the whole irkh feeling ... then to go thru the pain of labour and actually bringing another life into this world... go thru all this.. and to have someone at the end go, array bhai, humay tho yeh nahi, kuch aur chahiye tha... honestly... i would slap the living daylights out of them. how dare anyone throw cold water on all my mehnat? farmaishi programe nahi hai yeh.. whatever god gives, take it with plenty of nafils of shukranay.. cuz god knows there are enuff couples out there that have been trying and trying for yrs .. and their laps remains empty ...
i know you may already know this, just giving u tips on what u can bring up for ure folks.