Death of your loved one or of your own? What would it be like? What if it is a miserable painful death, or a death due to accident, or terrorism - God forbid? What will happen to your loved ones you leave behind? What will happen to you? Have you done enough good deeds in your life that Allah would save you from His punishment and will reward you?
Do these questions bother you guys too?
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Ofcourse yes. And I am glad I do because this helps me in recite Astaghfar everytime I think of it. I do think about the loved ones but not as much as I think about what will happen after I die. Because afterall, thats the permenant world. What I leave behind will come to me eventually but a chance of reliving my life will never be given again.
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And if you are talking about the moment of death, then yeah, I have even thought about that too, and I keep reciting all those surahs and Ayat, for they say ke ye Aafaat O Haadsaati maut se bachati hain, and I guess Astaghfar is the best key for it.
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Death is part of life & most people don't fear death, but fear being forgotten (personally I don't think much about it b/c there is no point in thinking about things you can't control).
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sure....every single day.
particularly when I am doing something that I have no choice BUT to do.....I remind myself that I am doing it for that ever-lasting life beyond death.
about the actual moment of death? perhaps not in much clarity......except to pray that it is expedient.
I have never thought about a painful death because we were always taught that pain at the time of death is cleansing.....so if I am inflicted with pain at that time then it can only be good for me in the after life in shaa Allah. Better to deal with pain here than there.
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Death tugs at my ear and says" live I am coming"
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worrying about dying doesn't help...while you are still alive and able to do things, doing something about life here after does!
ibaadaat will NOT only prepare you for this unavoidable and most certain event in your life but will also give you comfort/peace in this dunyaa and in the hereafter. Good Luck to ALL of us! :)
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How We Cope with Death | Psychology Today
How We Cope with Death
A Theory of Terror Management
Published on June 10, 2012 by Nathan A. Heflick, Ph.D. in The Big Questions
I’m going to die. So are you. So is that guy over there. So is everyone. On that uplifting note, let me share with you a summary of research on a social-psychological theory that was developed over twenty years ago by psychologists Jeff Greenberg (University of Ariona), Sheldon Solomon (Skidmore College) and Tom Pyszczynski (University of Colorado), called terror management theory.
Terror management theory (building mostly from the ideas of Ernest Becker) starts with the idea that humans, unlike other animals, face something that is potentially terrifying: the awareness of our own mortality coupled with the desire to live. To paraphrase TMT co-creator Sheldon Solomon, the awareness that you are destined to wither away to nothingness, and in turn are no more significant than a lizard or a potato, is not particularly uplifting. So how do humans cope with this awareness?
From a TMT approach, humans cope with mortality by denying their own mortality, and avoiding thinking about it. They repress the terror, basically (for instance, death thoughts promote an avoidance motivation, lead people to exaggerate the probable length of their life and death thoughts lower after people are reminded of death).
But, this approach inevitably fails to a degree. We know we will die, no matter how much we try and avoid thinking about it. So, humans developed cultural symbols of meaning and value that offer a sense of significance and importance, and ultimately, immortality, when people live up to and sustain the standards of these beliefs (hence the human need for self-esteem), as a means of coping with their own death.
This immortality can either be symbolic, such as by breaking records or contributing to worldviews and groups that continue beyond one’s death, or literal, as in belief in life after death.
A typical TMT study exposes participants to thoughts of their own mortality or another negative, aversive topic (i.e., physical pain, failure, speech anxiety, meaninglessness, embarassment, uncertainty). Mortality has been manipulated in these studies via open ended questions about death, answering true false questions about death, having participants type the word death as part of an (supposedly) unrelated task, or by having participants complete materials in front of a cemetery.
Research shows, in supporting this theory, for instance, that death reminders cause people to:
defend their cultural worldviews more strongly. For instance, to agree less with a person writing negatively about their country, to be more punitive towards moral transgressors (e.g., thieves and prostitutes) and to be more aggressive towards different others, including support for wars.
self-enhance and protect self-esteem, such as by agreeing more with positive feedback and taking more credit for success.
identify more with members of their own group, and even to rate them as more unique from other animals.
show an increased interest in close relationships, and a heightened desire to have children.
show a preference for clear, well-structured information and physical environments.
psychologically distance from other animals, such as agreeing less with an essay that argues that humans are not unique from other animals, and rating animals as less capable of thoughts and emotions.
become more religious and believe more in supernatural things, such as life after death (at least implicitly).
show reduced self-control and self-regulation abilities.
And:
Thoughts of death are increased when people’s worldviews are challenged.
Defending one’s belief prior to reminders of death lower death thoughts.
How are death thoughts measured? In these studies, they are measured by having people complete word fragments, such as G R A _ _ ,that can either be completed with death related words or other words. In this case, the death word would be G R A V E.
And:
Terror management theory posits that people cope with mortality by creating beliefs and values that promise a sense of immortality. And research supports the premise that these beliefs are (a) defended more when people are reminded of death and (b) protect people from mortality concerns.
So next time you vehemently defend your beliefs, perhaps it would help to be aware that you are likely doing so, in part, as a means of keeping your own basic insecurities about death at bay.
Arguments are not just arguments. They are quests for immortality.
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The fear of death and the pain associated with it is directly associated to the love we have with this world … Letting go of life is not as painful as having it snatched from our grips, because we are holding so tight to it.
There are secularists and the powers that be who would rather we maximise our fear of death so they can better control us … I say … Be free and fearless of death! Think about it everyday and welcome it when it arrives. Embrace it … But don’t escalate it’s arrival.
The concept of withering away into nothingness is far more appealing than a life in torment … In hellfire … So the above ideas from the phD’s need revising … 
Yes, we do believe in the afterlife … But this is not a result of us dreaming it up … Rather the people who have come up with this theory are doing the dreaming up. They argue that people created heaven as a way to remove fear of death … But then why would such people have developed the idea of Hell? Evidence shows that we inherited these ideas of afterlife and scientific evidence of our scriptures shows the ideas were brought to us by our prophet Muhammad (SAW) … No team of wise people had to come along and fabricate these beliefs and neither is there any evidence of that …
Some of the more moralistic ideas and reasons given by those TMT people are accurate … But you needn’t have heard it from them … Our own dear Prophet Muhammad (SAW) has given us guidance by telling us to visit the dead in the graveyard to remind ourselves of death in order to appeal to that moral underlining of life … So we don’t disagree with everything the scientists come up with … Yes some of their reasoning is true … Alas, because they make an accurate assessment it does not mean their premises in their arguments are all correct …
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I do think about it, even to the extent of I wonder if i only have a few years, maybe not an extra 10 or 20, but only like 2 or 3, what have i done with my life? will i have enough deeds to carry me through?
TBH its not a thought i have daily, as yes not thinking about it isnt going to deny the eventual outcome, but it does really frighten me, of how i will go, will it be really painful? how and where will my death come about? who will do my wusl, who will lower me to the ground.
I don't think we are ever prepared to lose those close to us, however i would wish to bury my parents, and not them to have to bury any of us. :(
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i have thought about it many times but i'm also sure god will forgive me