Right, so…
No orphan or widow should be left alone to fend for themselves.
There should be no injustice in the world.
We should all get along as one big happy family.
These statements sound great to the ears but what do they actually mean? Nothing until someone makes a move right? Who is going to say something like “no one should marry a divorcee because they are used goods now” to someone’s face? You would have to be an idiot and looking for trouble to say that.
Saying it and doing it are two very different things. If I spoke to an unmarried guy who is around 36 years old about a girl who is 30 years old, good looking, working professional, hijabi, well adjusted member of society and a divorcee…you should see some of the reactions. They dont even want to see a picture, its a straight up “no, we dont want divorcee”.
Kehne ko to sau baatein karlo. But doing it is sooooo much harder. Imagine never being married and introducing a divorced girl to your parents. You know what mummi papa will say? “Larki ko bohot zyada tajurba hai aur humara bacha aisi larki ke saat nahin rehsakta”.
Im not saying there is something wrong with being divorced, Allah knows how much I believe in giving second chances. However, the trend in men is quite the opposite of what you’re posting about.