had a moment(most likely when you were younger)when youve really felt your desiness and been a bit embarassed by it? i guess this is a question just for desi guppies who’ve been raised outside of pakistan.
i’ll give you an example of what i mean, when i was about 8 or 9, i opened up my packed lunch at school during lunchtime and my mum had lovingly filled it with chawal and a bit of dahi. i was so embarassed and tried hard to eat it without anyone noticing lol.
anyone else? 
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lol, oh man. the packed lunch embarrassments. for a few years i went to a school where i was the only non-white person, so yeh, totally been there!
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Actually I grew up pretty much away from parents , so there was never alot of guidance when it came to handling embarassment or bullying and the usual issues … so I learnt totally by experience that there is nothing to hide , just remain confident.
I never ever hid my desiness, infact , I have always felt very proud of my roots .. and thats made life alot more easier 
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don’t be embarrassed by the lunch… big deal it has some strong aroma
actually - I don’t like wearing desi when I go out. I am not embarrassed but I just don’t feel myself in them (unless it’s a desi occasion).
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yeah i remember whn i frst moved to canada ... i cld understand and speak normal english very well but was clueless about the slang ... and the frst of skool whn someone asked me wats up and i had no freakin clue on how to answer it ... that was kinda embarassing
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Being embarrassed of ones desi roots is a sign of low self esteem.
There is nothing wrong with being desi .
There is nothing wrong with eating desi food in public. You would see many people in desi restaurant eating desi food and enjoying it.
There is nothing wrong with desi dresses , they make men and boys look handsome and girls and women look pretty.
Desi beverages , lasi shasi tay thandia-e , tay kashmiri chai are a gift from heaven.
Nihari , Pa-a , biryani , maghaz masala , masala dosa, pakoray , chicken 65 , yakhni poola-o , chili chicken , wow , finger licking good .
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Yes, a few times when I was a little (okay thats relative) child. Not a big deal though, i grew out of it.
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yes, when my mom yells at me in punjabi at the mall and people start staring..that can be a bit embarrassing.
^that can be embarrassing in any language :rotato:
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i was proud of those 'crusty sandwiches'..
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oh yeh at sauna every sat night with white friends (gal & guys) .. i hate being the browniee their.. .but .. oh well..
question: why white-chicks like desi guys ?
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Thank god where I live, we do not have to experience embarrasment because we are desi. 
Being embarrassed of ones desi roots is a sign of low self esteem. There is nothing wrong with being desi .
ohooo...u reading too much into it mirch uncle...
theres nothign wrong with being desi you're right, but i think most of us are talking about when we are young childrne...esp for children who are the only desis in their school or neighborhood its easy to feel embarrassed or ostracized.
oh yeh at sauna every sat night with white friends (gal & guys) .. i hate being the browniee their.. .but .. oh well..
question: why white-chicks like desi guys ?
Good question, I can see why desi guys like white girls....but what the hell do white girls see in brown dudes?
Good question, I can see why desi guys like white girls....but what the hell do white girls see in brown dudes?
extra-energy !
question: why desi girls go out mostly with black/spanish dudes?
i can relate, the secondary school i went to didnt have many asians either, however,i had lunch in the canteen so no major embarassments lol
**Really, if you dont mind me asking,how come? im very proud too now that i am a lot older and know more about my roots and have been to pakistan more,but i think most people would naturally grow out of the kind of embarassment the thread’s about. **
i dont really wear asian clothes on a regular basis myself, am much more comfortable in western wear cos am more used to it so i get you
aww what did you say?
**its nothing to do with self esteem mirch bhai.you didnt get the point of my thread. as a kid, you want to fit in with the rest of your peers, being a different colour in a mainly white school is gonna make you feel a bit embarassed at eating pakoray for lunch whilst everyone else eats their sandwiches no? its like turning up to a party in fancy dress but everyone else is in formal wear! **
most people do i think, hope so anyway lol
is this a recent experience:D?!
You’re lucky but its all a learning curve and actually makes me prouder of my desiness:)
yeah i remember whn i frst moved to canada ... i cld understand and speak normal english very well but was clueless about the slang ... and the frst of skool whn someone asked me wats up and i had no freakin clue on how to answer it ... that was kinda embarassing
I faced the same problem when i first came in this country, eight years ago. I was a kid back then and it took me like a week or so to get used to the slang.
extra-energy !
question: why desi girls go out mostly with black/spanish dudes?
I dont know any who do...its mostly the younger, ghetto-ized ones who go for the thuggish type.
LOL, you are so right.
Fair enough. I see now what you are saying.