Do you regret it? Did they appreciate it at all? Was it family? How did things play out?
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Adopt me .......I promise U won't regret it :LB:
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My grandfather helped a lot of people settling in Europe (mostly Uk and Dk at that moment). To be honest, people are grateful at first, when they get the hang of thing, they think of you as nothing. But thats a lot of years ago, nowadays I think it is not so common anymore. Though my close friends father did help his brother and brotherinlaw in the early and late 90s and to be honest, uno ne bhi is asaan ko asaan nahin samjha. I feel so sorry for that uncle, he is all alone, cuz all the siblings blame him for everything, when indeed he only tried to help them out.
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Alhamdulillah no regrets, we’re one step closer to being Mr&Mrs 
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^ Aww...thats sweet.
I guess Im just suprised how some dont care. Ive met people who simply could care less about who helped them in their time of need. Its disappointing and seems like nashukri.
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We did. No they didn't appreciate it, quite the opposite. Extended family. Things played out like in a bad soap opera, we are no longer in touch. No regrets though, we didn't help them because we wanted their gratitude, we helped them because it felt like the right thing to do. Our conscience is clear, we did our bit to the best of our ability. Their conscience is their problem.
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Not me personally but my family has.........don't regret it one bit.............but it was not appreciated, some people don't understand the effort, compromises, sacrifices and time that goes into something like this
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I can't take credit. My parents did a lot for their siblings and cousins. They still do. I think all of those close family members are still very appreciative.
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we did and yes they don't give a **** about us after 5-6 years, but no regrets it was their qismat to come to CA and USA but through us or with our help. One of my uncles helped tons of ppl he even used to help them to get in grad school under his supervision(he is pathalogist), got their families over, help them in EVERY POSSIBLE WAY but same story on his side too.
If someone ask me if me/or my family will do it again, hell yes, kisi ki life ban jaey, nothing better than that.
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Helped many but never looked forward for any appreciation.
In Urdu there is a saying . Naikee kar darya main dall.
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I dont regret helping anyone...ever!
I helped (or rather Allah helped, I was just a tool in helping) my cousin to get to US on H1B (work) visa. Arranged legitimate employment for him and he is now in US for around 6 years. I am happy I did it for him.
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Its rare to see anyone helping others settle unless they are getting a benefit in return.
The example that I know of, they put a condition that the guy will have to marry a girl whom no one else would marry. Only then they would help the guy settle abroad.
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I haven't really helped anyone get in but I'm always actively trying to get someone kicked out.
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I haven't really helped anyone get in but I'm always actively trying to get someone kicked out.
Your post reminds me of that joke.
On the day of judgment there were many fire pits in hell one for each nationality , at the edges of all those fire pits were angels with whips , if someone tried to get out they will whip that person back into the pit.
One of fire pits did not have any angel posted on the edge but people would still not getting out. So one person who was watching this asked the angel in-charge of the operations , why it is so.
He said this fire pit is for Pakistani nation , we do not need to post any angel there because if one Pakistani wants to get out the others pull him back in. :D
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My hubby joined me here in the UK. Other than that no one else. My In laws would have probabley liked it if one of hubby's brothers might have been able to marry a brit girl but it didn't happen. They did however come across a proposal via a family in the UK during in laws visit, and as a result one of hubby's bros is now married and settled in Muscat.
No one ever appreciates or says that due to being able to come here and meet our relatives here this had been made possible. Oh well ....
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my dad has helped several families, one was his sisters family, and we got kicked in the face for that in the end, caused lots of family problems even now there is major friction.
another was a fmily friend, who does appreciate to an extent.
my dad isn't the type of person who will keep on holding onto your hand once you know what your doing, he shows the way, and then says here you go get on with your life now i've shown you what to do.(not in a bad way)
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I think its nice to maintain a respectful distance after a while but to always maintain ties with the person who gave you their sahara. Its just nice and shows your own upbringing...whether your families taught you to appreciate what has been given to you.
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My husband has done that several times, got people H1s and jobs also, he even helps financially when he can.
He doesn't expect anything from anyone. He says when I came, some people helped me while some exploited me, I'm grateful to people who helped me so I'm paying it forward and helping the community...... hopefully these people will help others and pay it forward too.
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I really need to move out of Pakistan.
I am 5' 11". Turned 36 this September. Divorced after just 8 months of marriage.
Have traveled all over the world.
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my family helped my dad's cousin's son...he doesn't even talk to us now...he was bigaaarat anyway.....whilst living in out house he would look at me with bad intentions....and say inapproriate things...thank god he doesnt talk to us anymore! but yeah so we helped him set up everything...my mum went crazy shopping for him....and now...he doesnt care...but then on the flip side another cousins son came and mashallah he is really good with us...even settled down and got married to a girl here...lovely couple and happy to know them :)