Have you ever done something..

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Noops . . . short term is better . You just forget and move on . Who cares what happened like a year back . Jo howa so howa , life goes on .

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If you only have short term memory, then what will you do when you want to retain the happy moments forever? or at least for a long long time. You can't pick and chose what to retain in your memory and what to forget. You can forget but then also it takes time and then also it only goes to your subconscious and if you want to remember something that you forgot, you can. Also things that you think you have forgotten, sometimes re-appear in dreams.

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Sometimes, you just need to let go and move on.

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moving onn,,
yar life goes on but I doubt ne one can do ne thing about the memories
Some times its difficult to erase,

YAAD-E-MAAZE AZAB HAI YA RAB
CHEEN LAY MUJH SAY HAFIZA MAIRA

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No, but sometimes I did make mistakes unintentionally and then when I realised, I apologised or tried to anyway, learnt something from that experience as from everything else in life and moved on.

We humans always make mistakes in life, the point is that when you realise, you stop doing that. You don't become a better person without mistakes, of course this only counts if you actually learn something from a mistake, be it deliberate or uintentional. If you make mistakes, but don't change for the better, that's clearly negative attitude.

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Thanks notorious for the input and Clad.

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Not all the time is a person able to move on. Sometimes people fight for the people they want in their lives. Fight to retain them in their lives.

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Bad memories are AZAB. Those able to forget and move on are luckiest ones..

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You do have stalkerish tendencies Aisha, not the first time I have heard this. Kind of creepy if you ask me.

Anyway, its better to move on. No point in stalking that person just to tell them that you are sorry.

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Dubaiwali....there is no use of putting yourself in any pain now. Please move on & stop searching for those people. You did your bit to search for those people so that you can apologise but it did not happen so now leave it. Instead now ask for Allah's forgiveness and pray that He gives you peace of mind and shows you the right path.

Seriously searching for those people will not take you anywhere.

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aisha i felt like u did once .. i felt soo bad 4 how i acted . ni went 2 great lengths 2 apologize .. but it turned out that my i nstincts were right n they were doing things to harm me behind my back..very evil things .. even after knowing that i had a concious n a saaf dil to apologize n feel bad .. so in short dont beat urself up .. maybe if the tables were turned they wouldnt think twice about hurting u ..

iv beat myself up feeling bad for people n sympathetic to ppl who only just slapped me in my face later(not literally of course) .. conclusion: no one is worth ur peace of mind

n u said u tried to contact the one person who knew that persons whereabouts/contact.. well then i can bet u anything they know u r looking 4 them 2 say sorry .. n it already reached them how much u care .. maybe they need some time to calm down

so .. relax .. stay happy :)

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I will stalk you next. I am hormonal and emotional. Beware. WOAH, it's not like I am some serial killer. My stalking is minimal. I tried to somehow apologise and I failed. That's it. I am not going to go to their boy friend again to tell me about their whereabouts. That's where my stalking ends.

I know you are right.

iA I will too.

You are right about the last few lines. I'll stop thinking on this. I'll leave it to Allah. Whatever happens.

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Hi hun, yes I have also been in the same situation as you have. It has been a bad feeling for me and always will remain as I never got the chance to apologise from my heart. really wanted to but they didnt give me the chance. I feel every person should give people the chance to have their last say and to give them the chance to apologise and then it is up to them wetha they want to forgive or not, but it just make the peson feel so much lighter knowung that they have apologised from their hearts.

What did you actually do dubaiwali if you dont mind me asking. xx

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yaad-e-maazi aazab hai yaa rab
cheen lai mujh sai haafza maira

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Sorry is for the wronged person, not to assuage the guilt of the wrong doer. If the wronged person will not benefit from the sorry, and indeed seems to be avoiding all contact, then it makes no sense to continue to find them. Sometimes, we just don't get to say sorry; and that is our punishment.
Hope you find some peace, Dubaiwali.