Did you ever find someone saying nasty mean things about you? Did you end up confronting them or did you let them go?
This is not hypothetical…what did you actually do when you found out?
Re: Have you ever confronted someone?
I either maintain a distance or confront the person. If you're not malicious and treat people with respect, others will pick up on your positive personality and might even question the validity and intentions of the person talking chit about you.
I also think it can be good to talk it out. I don't usually rush to confront the person (depends on the offense, also), I wait and see how things go before doing that. Sometimes we may not be aware that our own comments or body language may unintentionally be offensive to someone, and for this reason it's helpful to seek calm clarification and clear the air. And if the other person is guilty, then your civil confrontation can shame them and put them in their place. I think sometimes people feel they can get away with hurting others and breaking rules because they haven't been caught. When one is caught and confronted, they may think twice about making the same mistake again. This also depends on HOW you confront the person. If you approach them in a huffy and aggressive manner, it shuts them off to even listening to you let alone acknowledging their mistakes. A calmer approach tends to be more effective.
Whether or not you should confront the person can depend upon the offense, who they are, your relationship with them, and how serious you feel the effect of their behavior will be on you.
Re: Have you ever confronted someone?
Reha I confronted a friend who was saying all these mean things about me. It was the hardest thing for me to believe at first but once I thought about everything, things started falling in place. Well I confronted her, asked her why? she really had no response and I told her I could no longer be her friend and that was that. I saw her recently both of us didnt acknowledge the other. Sad, but its been years since this event.
Re: Have you ever confronted someone?
the best thing is to maintain a distance and let the person know in other ways that you are aware of their antics.
unless, the person matters to you and there has been some misunderstanding or you just want to confront to clarify things.