felt like kidnapping someone.
if yes, how have u dealt with the urge.
if no, good on you. really.
here’s a story.
this girl who’s around twenty falls in love (?) with a man about 9 yrs older to her, who happens to be her cousin brother’s ‘best’ friend. and this cousin brother is almost like a real brother to her. seein as all of these people come from south asian families, particularly the girl and her cousin brother’s family being conservative, the brother won’t take it to well if he know’s what’s happening.
she met him - the man she cares for - over a four day period during a marriage when she was nineteen. the marriage took place in a city away from her hometown, in *his *city of residence. they both fell hard for each other, the few snatches of conversation that they managed to exchange, the glances, the attraction that they could not show, but deny either. the brother didn’t realize anything was up. here’s why-- because unbeknownst to the girl herself, the man already had himself a girlfriend. she came away from the marriage, back to her studies but with a smile on her face that would come and go whenever it felt like, not looking at opportunity, occasion. For over a year she dreamed of meeting him again, wished there was some way she could contact him, but she knew she couldn’t, and neway she was planning a trip in around 10 months again, to his city, the city of her maternal relatives too.
she goes there in ten months’ time as decided, and she is face to face with him again. that same heady feeling, something the type of which only he could make her feel. she gets a call at the house she’s putting up at. i really can’t get you out of my head, for over a year i havn’t seen you, but ur picture wouldn’t go away. i know you’r my friend’s sister but it’s something i can’t ignore, and all i want to do is see you, know u. please. she hangs up feeling happiness, feeling light, feeling great, having given a non commital reply yet. she can’t stop smiling. so her cousin sister asks her what’s goin? on an impulse she confides into her cos she’s always been close to this particular sister, and because she knows she can trust her not to tell her own real brother-- the cousin brother whose friend he is. but all she confides is that she’s attracted to him, not that he called her or they’re communicating in any way. her sister tells her with a straight face, oh din’t u know? he’s got a girlfriend since a few years now. on the next call she asks him whats up, trying to keep the hurt and anger out of her voice. he tells her yeah i had a gf since before i met you, but how can i break up with her without knowing what’s in your mind? without knowing if this thing between us would develop into something, without knowing if u would let me come into your life, seein im your brother’s friend, without knowing heck a lot of things. im sorry i din;t tell u before but i was scared u may not talk to me. and moreover that girl im seeing has been a close friend of mine since many years and i know she cares for me, i uh..couldnt bring myself to tell her im into someone else. but now if you tell me how u feel, then i swear i will let her know, even though it may hurt her, which will hurt me too but i like you. i couldn’t reach you for over a yr cos i had no contact info, couldn’t ask ur bro for it, had no idea where u are except which city ur at. but now no way im lettin u go. only if u’d give me a chance. she didn’t give him a chance just then and she came bak, yet again.
and now he tries to reach her and she doesn’t know just what to do. should she respond. would that be OK? what abt his gf, whom she feels no animosity against, cos she understands it’s just circumstances, no ones fault. what about her cousin bro who would come to know, not that that would be a problem to her, but certainly to her family.
she sometimes dreams of just kidnapping the guy for good. kidnapping may seem like a wrong word here, but u know taking him away from the rest of the world, where they won’t have to think. wishful thinking that.
words that may help are welcome. actually even those that won’t. ![]()