tell me how a women have a BIG heart if her husband has done a second marriage???i know in islam 4 wives are allowed ,but is it necessary to follow it,like people are not true muslims but they do follow this rule.
one of my friend’s husband is doing a second marriage just because his wife is a professional lady and she cant spend that much time with his mom and do her chores ,so he loves his wife alot:omg:so he has planned to do a 2nd marriage with his divorce cousin.doing this will make his mom happy and the 2nd wife will stay with mom and the first wife with her husband.well to me its weird .when she was telling us that the question popped in my mind was that how can she bear her hubby like sleeping with other biwi too.
i must say one sure needs a big heart to digest that ur hubby is with his other wife .like how can he loves 2 women at a time???
the world is weird and so are people.i am still unable to understand why GOD has permitted 4 marriages:hmmm:
he is being very unfair to the second wife.. Islam allows you to have four wives ONLY if you can treat them all equally including, but not limited to, the amount of time that you spend with each wife.. if he isnt gonna spend much time with the second wife, he would be committing a sin instead of getting rewards for marrying a divorced woman to be her provider!!!
Quran is the only book that says “marry ONE” you are allowed to have four wives but the condition is to treat them equally however that doesnt work out well so it’s strongly recommended that you should only marry one wife!! I can find references if you need!! let me know!
Before Islam, there was no limit for wives, men have had 2, 3, or even 10 wives and most of the time they had no rights whatsoever so Islam allowed more than one wife to protect women.. for the sake of her modesty and respect.. I have been asked by non muslims about this plenty of times and I have just one answer.. it’s better to give the woman a status of wife rather than a mistress as in west…moreover, better for kids to have a share in inheritance than leading a disgraceful life!!
as much as i understand the reasonings, i know i’d have a really hard time accepting a second wife into my household. to me, it equals cheating, and i can’t help but think that if she’s so bothered, she shouldn’t be such a pushover but instead should explain to him that his behaviour is unacceptable to her. and the poor second wife! her only crime is to be a divorcee in that society and she gets shafted, yet again, by being offered someone’s 2nd wife position. yeesh.
he is being very unfair to the second wife.. Islam allows you to have four wives ONLY if you can treat them all equally including, but not limited to, the amount of time that you spend with each wife.. if he isnt gonna spend much time with the second wife, he would be committing a sin instead of getting rewards for marrying a divorced woman to be her provider!!!
ver sensitive topic
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i dont think anybody could give equal rights unless you are angel
you are talking about wives iam bit worried about that islam permits kaneez or laundis which are exactly same as wife but without nikkah. i have read many ahadees in which it mentioned children born from these woman were haramzadeh in the society
is bit complicated issue but our suhabah used to have laundis as a male ghanimat from wars and used distribute among them like other things
i only wonder that how can one accept her husband after knowing that he has married another woman. like when he ll say I LOVE U HONEY ,is he going to meant that???
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like when he ll say I LOVE U HONEY ,is he going to meant that???