HATE to admit but i am still in love with a married man

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Re: HATE to admit but i am still in love with a married man

@redvelvet

Oh but she us friends with his wife. And she does talk to his wife about him…to the point that wife got weirded out by it. I don’t know if her talking to wife about her husband made her love him even more…bur it defo made her suspect OP’s feelings.

The description you have of love sounds idealistic and human beings aren’t farishtay. The problem with this description of love is that it keeps the person actively involved in life of the person they love. By being friends with his wife…means you are involved in his life. That’s not healthy. It’s better to distance yourself from this guy … To not socialize with him unnecessarily…which she’s doing. Love entails sacrifice, but it need not go to the extent of a self- destruction where you put your life on hold for someone who doesn’t return the sentiments.

@redvelvet beyond talking, not talking, wife, friends etc is a place an individual needs to reach..its the space of contentment (no hopes, no expectations , no plotting & planning/schemeing of how to get him or resentment ) u have to move past that otherwise years will pass & this will always prick u like a thorn or an old wound that is bound to get infected.

Doesn’t matter what she does to reach there, its her path & her journey but her end goal should be contentment with her feelings and how she made peace with it.