I know. MashAllah.
ami123 – No, I don’t. They lived with us briefly when we first moved into this house and they were searching for one of their own. That was for a few months. They live about 10 minutes away.
My mil is absolutely gorgeous, mA (those of you who have seen her know that :)) and super successful in her career. She's very formal with people and is not one of those hoo haa type women, going around gossiping or having a large circle of friends. She was a bit reserved when 'baat pakki' was going on but once everything was fixed, she opened up to me like no other. It started with both our families taking a trip to NYC and while hubby's family were taking pictures, she asked me to join them. That was the first sign of affection she showed me. She was also very generous and kind enough to let me choose everything on my own during our Nikkah time, and I mean every single thing including the 'joras' their side was bringing for me. After the Nikkah, I flew back with my husband to his house for a few days and I was welcomed with open arms by his entire family. My mil hugged me and told me that now I was her daughter, this house was mine and anytime I wanted something, I should come to her and my fil because they were now going to spoil me just like they have spoiled their three boys. She had prepped the whole house for my arrival and had decorated my room sooo well, it was literally like staying at a hotel.. lol. One time I remember we went out somewhere, and she saw me eating green peppers (I love them), the next day when she made salan, she put lots of green pepper in it even though noone really likes it except me. Later, there were some issues with her best friend's daughter who came to me and *****ed about my inlaws. Ofcourse I went straight to my hubby and started crying. My mil saw that and tried to ask what was wrong but I didn't want to say anything because it would have created unnecessary tension. She got upset at me because she had told me the first day to communicate with her no matter what happened. She had said that if you ever have a problem, or are upset at us or anything, come and we will all discuss it and find a solution together. So finally, I just told her what the girl had said, word by word. She then hugged me, pinched my nose and said sorry for getting upset. She was so pissed at that girl though, she considers her as her own lil daughter and was very offended. She then called up the mom and called her over, it was basically like, how dare she said something to my daughter in law, and not just the mil, all my inlaws stood by me through this. It was a big mess but whatever, alhumdulillah, my inlaws didn't even spend one minute thinking who they should believe more. There are alot more times when she has been super, super nice, such as if I am sleeping and have a headache, she would come and massage my head, or offer to put oil in it, and she really makes an effort to treat me as her daughter. She always tells me to go into her room, take any jewelry, anything I want at any time. We also have a great time whenever we are going out. Since we are the only two females in the house, we are always discussing what to wear, exchanging makeup, jewelry while the lil devar runs around passing things from my room to hers.. lol. My fil is the same way, one time I had a headache and when I woke up, he had made me breakfast (he normally doesn't do a thing in the kitchen btw) only because my husband had called from the hospital to make sure I ate and was feeling okay. Then when I was flying back home during Ramzan, my fil gave me a brown lunch bag with all my iftar in it to eat on the plane because my mil had called from work and told him to do it.. lol. When I cooked for the first time (it was only a chicken salan, nothing major) they took me out on a shopping spree the next day and had me buy the entire store. And ofcourse my hubby's grandma is the CUTEST of them all, she would cook everything I liked, and when I was cooking, she would stay with me to make sure I was okay and wouldn't burn my hand or anything lol.. and my parents in law would laugh so much saying she used to do the same with my mil thirty years ago.. we have also had small miscommunication once or twice (thanks to me depending on my hubby to tell her but he didn't) but each time, we hugged each other (we both would get tears in our eyes lol) and made up.. and the funny part is, it was not even anything big at all.. but i really like how i can go upto her and solve anything like that.. hehe, all disagreements/ differences aside, I just love my inlaws so much, alhumdulillah!
Can I get in on this too please? She sounds like a dream, mA!
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My MIL is amazing Mashaallah. I have never met a woman like her ever. She tells everyone I am not her bahu but her daughter. We spend alot of time talking, eating together, sipping chai etc etc. Till this day she has never let me lift a finger to do ANY sort of work. As much as I try to help and do things she never lets me. She never interferes between me and my husband and was crying and hugging me so much the day I moved out of their home. Mashallah she is a very well respected and educated woman and the eldest of 9 children so everyone looks at me with the same respect and high esteem. I received such beautiful jewelry from them during my wedding that I still haven't worn all of it! My FIL is even more amazing. He is always talking and laughing and cracking jokes and never made me feel like an outsider Mashallah. My devar was like "so what should I call you from now on?" lol i was like "bhabhi" and that's been what my SIL and BIL call me all the time and I love hearing it!! They always ask me if I need anything or if I want to do anything or go anywhere and have done so much for me their all priceless. His whole side is amazing Mashaallah. May allah always keep them happy and healthy. Ameen.
I love my inlaws!!!
lol!! yes i have two devars only, one is 20, the other one is 14 
aap ke liye konsa chaley ga 
my MIL is just amazing too! She always takes care of me like she does of her children. Always takes my side....she's really considerate and understanding. She's really a good lady. I always tell my husband that I asb. love your mom!
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sorry i cudnt help
cute thread:D
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wauw u guys are really lucky:)
My MIL has done nice things to me like cooking for us before we returned from work, when she was visiting. Making me loads me allu parathas when we were leaving a long journey. Buying me special food items when she got to know about my allergy. Telling me how to keep myself healthy cuz she knowf of my ill health. And also by stopping to ask about when the baby will come..hehehe
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my MIL has always been nice to me before my wedding and after too . she is the one that chose me for her son. my nand n me gt married onli a few days apart and i had the exa\ct same amount of clothes n gold as my nand had in fact my stuff ws nicer . my mil got up to make us breakfact eahc morning even tho i could mke it she never let me lft a finger, she ws always telling us to go out n hve fun , and js a few days after my wedding she told me that i should ask her for stuff js like i ask my mum i shudnt hesitate . when i ws leaving for england widout hubby i ws crying and my mil ws crying more than coz she felt so sorry for me n my hubby to be apart and even tho hubby is her laadla she is like pray that he gets his visa soo so he can be wid u
she is a lovely women not onli her bt all of hubby's family is lovely mashallah.
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My MIL is very sweet masha'Allah. She always takes my side when hubby and I have disagreements, she confides in me and shares her deepest darkest thoughts and emotions. She always compliments the way I keep the house and take care of my kids. If she finds out I need something, she puts all her priorities aside and makes sure she surprises me with what I wanted.
My MIL is very sweet masha'Allah. She always takes my side when hubby and I have disagreements, she confides in me and shares her deepest darkest thoughts and emotions. She always compliments the way I keep the house and take care of my kids. If she finds out I need something, she puts all her priorities aside and makes sure she surprises me with what I wanted.
And you deserve all of it because you have truly been a wonderful DIL, mA.
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i love my mil she is a wonderful wonderful person touchwood :)
We read threads all the time about how horrible, uncaring, selfish, posessive the MILs are.. so why not talk about if they have ever been nice to you? Any nice moment that you have shared with your mother in law? Or is there any time when she has done something special for you?
My MIL rocks, and i cant count the number of times she has done something nice for me.
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^awwww, so sweet! we should have more men come here and talk about how wonderful their MILs are :D
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well my in-laws alhamdullilah n maShaAllhha the best In-laws in the world.
my MIL does her best as she is not physically well though she cant go outside to shop 4 me but she arrange the superb gifts for me many times like this summer i never made myself a single suit she gave me all by different varieties like bareeze, Gulahmad n Hafiz cloth(in my city, one of most expensive shops here).
recently we came frm US n my MIL gave me two dresses ready-to-wear.
she also give me gold jewellery on many occasions like on eid, my BD etc.
n though v have servants for all household tasks so she never ever said me anything to do.
in fact she is very very nice MashaAllah.
My MIL is a great great lady. She is a very hard working person, even at this age, she is handling the whole house, raised her kids and now raising her grandkids. She was a teacher till she retired, she had 5 boys and then twins, a girl and a boy, the boy died unfortunately due to the neglance of a doc before he reached one. Her structure, a very tall and slim lady.
When I was introduced to her, she came into the kitchen, thats where I was hiding from my rishta and hugged me, not even knowing me. Some cousins were making indication that she is a very strick lady, I will have a hard time with her, thats because she talks a lot LOL ... but then thats good as I dont talk that much and I like to listen to stories... I didnt have a hard time with her, once we had a misunderstanding, as my hubby was away, I took my daugher and went to my room and closed the door and slept as had a headache, she looked upon me and my daughter, I was half sleep and then she bought me chai, that was her way of saying sorry.
When my husband told her about me, at first she got upset as she was planning her whole life to marry him with her bro's daughter, he was totaly against the idea and he convinced to come and meet us. She came and things got set up and we married. Never once has she said to me that, why me and not her bro's daughter became her bahu.
Now I am her favorite bahu next to the one that lives with them. When I am there in pakistan, she asks us what we want to eat and arranges it to be cooked for us or being brought from the market. She makes the yummiest parathas and I look forward of eating it from her hands. She would make them and sent them to us in our room. :-)
Sometimes I would cook lunch or dinner and till today she remembers my palau or haleem, on the phone she is allways saying, saadia humay tumara khana buhut yaad atta hai.
This summer I was telling her I dont have summer cloths and its getting hot, in one month she sent me 3 lawn suits.
I really like her, thought at times she can be a bit hard as age is coming ot her but in whole she is a great person.
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My mother in law is wonderful. Even today she jokes about how I stole her favorite daughter from her! And I joke, 'since you weren't on the market, I had to go for the next best thing'! hahaa..
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O Ooo oo good thread :YES!: can i open a(nother) thread on nands??? 
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^ only if u kill your one and replace with a new friendlier model.
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When i visited hub's family for the first time after the wedding, in Pakistan, i was spoiled rotten by MIL. She wouldnt let me touch any housework and had SILs bring our breakfast, lunch, dinner etc. She said whether i stay for 2 weeks or 2 months i am not do anything. I had surgery done while i was there and she fed me with her own hands when i couldnt eat myself.
Even though we have had rough patches but i have figured out what she is like and what she means when she speaks in a certain way and i think she has realised i am not the "amercanised" bahu they thought i would be.
My MIL is a great great lady. She is a very hard working person, even at this age, she is handling the whole house, raised her kids and now raising her grandkids. She was a teacher till she retired, she had 5 boys and then twins, a girl and a boy, the boy died unfortunately due to the neglance of a doc before he reached one. Her structure, a very tall and slim lady.
When I was introduced to her, she came into the kitchen, thats where I was hiding from my rishta and hugged me, not even knowing me. Some cousins were making indication that she is a very strick lady, I will have a hard time with her, thats because she talks a lot LOL ... but then thats good as I dont talk that much and I like to listen to stories... I didnt have a hard time with her, once we had a misunderstanding, as my hubby was away, I took my daugher and went to my room and closed the door and slept as had a headache, she looked upon me and my daughter, I was half sleep and then she bought me chai, that was her way of saying sorry.
When my husband told her about me, at first she got upset as she was planning her whole life to marry him with her bro's daughter, he was totaly against the idea and he convinced to come and meet us. She came and things got set up and we married. Never once has she said to me that, why me and not her bro's daughter became her bahu.
Now I am her favorite bahu next to the one that lives with them. When I am there in pakistan, she asks us what we want to eat and arranges it to be cooked for us or being brought from the market. She makes the yummiest parathas and I look forward of eating it from her hands. She would make them and sent them to us in our room. :-)
Sometimes I would cook lunch or dinner and till today she remembers my palau or haleem, on the phone she is allways saying, saadia humay tumara khana buhut yaad atta hai.
This summer I was telling her I dont have summer cloths and its getting hot, in one month she sent me 3 lawn suits.
I really like her, thought at times she can be a bit hard as age is coming ot her but in whole she is a great person.
Wow, I think shay cant stop me from responding to this post in her thread. Your story is so sweet. Your MIL sounds like very down to earth person, mashAllah. Nice to know and I'm sure you're an equally sweet bahu! :)