Re: Has your MIL ever been nice to you?
My mil is absolutely gorgeous, mA (those of you who have seen her know that :)) and super successful in her career. She's very formal with people and is not one of those hoo haa type women, going around gossiping or having a large circle of friends. She was a bit reserved when 'baat pakki' was going on but once everything was fixed, she opened up to me like no other. It started with both our families taking a trip to NYC and while hubby's family were taking pictures, she asked me to join them. That was the first sign of affection she showed me. She was also very generous and kind enough to let me choose everything on my own during our Nikkah time, and I mean every single thing including the 'joras' their side was bringing for me. After the Nikkah, I flew back with my husband to his house for a few days and I was welcomed with open arms by his entire family. My mil hugged me and told me that now I was her daughter, this house was mine and anytime I wanted something, I should come to her and my fil because they were now going to spoil me just like they have spoiled their three boys. She had prepped the whole house for my arrival and had decorated my room sooo well, it was literally like staying at a hotel.. lol. One time I remember we went out somewhere, and she saw me eating green peppers (I love them), the next day when she made salan, she put lots of green pepper in it even though noone really likes it except me.
Later, there were some issues with her best friend's daughter who came to me and *****ed about my inlaws. Ofcourse I went straight to my hubby and started crying. My mil saw that and tried to ask what was wrong but I didn't want to say anything because it would have created unnecessary tension. She got upset at me because she had told me the first day to communicate with her no matter what happened. She had said that if you ever have a problem, or are upset at us or anything, come and we will all discuss it and find a solution together. So finally, I just told her what the girl had said, word by word. She then hugged me, pinched my nose and said sorry for getting upset. She was so pissed at that girl though, she considers her as her own lil daughter and was very offended. She then called up the mom and called her over, it was basically like, how dare she said something to my daughter in law, and not just the mil, all my inlaws stood by me through this. It was a big mess but whatever, alhumdulillah, my inlaws didn't even spend one minute thinking who they should believe more.
There are alot more times when she has been super, super nice, such as if I am sleeping and have a headache, she would come and massage my head, or offer to put oil in it, and she really makes an effort to treat me as her daughter. She always tells me to go into her room, take any jewelry, anything I want at any time. We also have a great time whenever we are going out. Since we are the only two females in the house, we are always discussing what to wear, exchanging makeup, jewelry while the lil devar runs around passing things from my room to hers.. lol. My fil is the same way, one time I had a headache and when I woke up, he had made me breakfast (he normally doesn't do a thing in the kitchen btw) only because my husband had called from the hospital to make sure I ate and was feeling okay. Then when I was flying back home during Ramzan, my fil gave me a brown lunch bag with all my iftar in it to eat on the plane because my mil had called from work and told him to do it.. lol. When I cooked for the first time (it was only a chicken salan, nothing major) they took me out on a shopping spree the next day and had me buy the entire store. And ofcourse my hubby's grandma is the CUTEST of them all, she would cook everything I liked, and when I was cooking, she would stay with me to make sure I was okay and wouldn't burn my hand or anything lol.. and my parents in law would laugh so much saying she used to do the same with my mil thirty years ago.. we have also had small miscommunication once or twice (thanks to me depending on my hubby to tell her but he didn't) but each time, we hugged each other (we both would get tears in our eyes lol) and made up.. and the funny part is, it was not even anything big at all.. but i really like how i can go upto her and solve anything like that.. hehe, all disagreements/ differences aside, I just love my inlaws so much, alhumdulillah!