that you gave your consent for a rishta…i.e haan is done BUT there comes a much better rishta, maybe a dream one which you had wanted all your life. What do you do now?
I know morally it would be wrong to consider it BUT how many of us would be tempted to opt out or even wish in our hearts that something happens n we can come out of the earlier commitement.
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if there is no formal Haan, engagement or baat paaki done (through any rasam or something)... I think every party has a right to opt out.... I may be wrong... but thats what I think...
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that you gave your consent for a rishta...............i.e haan is done BUT there comes a much better rishta, maybe a dream one which you had wanted all your life. What do you do now?
I know morally it would be wrong to consider it BUT how many of us would be tempted to opt out or even wish in our hearts that something happens n we can come out of the earlier commitement.
if you are committed and wedding date are set then it is not good practice to break it.
however, if no wedding date or engagement scheduled yet, then you can go with better proposal.
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is the haan officially haan or the haan as in han in ur head?
if its officially han, let it go .
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commitment is every thing. And if you are honest to yourself you know your choice. Dont push yourself into anything anyway you may regret lateron. This is your life afterall and you get it once only
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if there is no formal Haan, engagement or baat paaki done (through any rasam or something)... I think every party has a right to opt out.... I may be wrong... but thats what I think...
aww i dnt think so lol it wud be wrong i think bt very tempting i must say :D
is the haan officially haan or the haan as in han in ur head?
if its officially han, let it go .
hm if its in yr head then tu koi chakar hi nahi hai boss.
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Better safe than sorry.. if you KNOW this is what you want, then pursue your dream.
Do NOT marry for the wrong reasons.
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engagements are not marriages, if they break it'snot the end of the world.
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engagements are not marriages, if they break it'snot the end of the world.
yah i know.
bt giving yr consent and then backing out is no good. unless ofcourse there is an issue within that rishta to be looking elsewhere. otherwise wat guarantee is there than after u opt for the oother rishta, some other better rishta wont come yr way?
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^ that. commitment.
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life ... you get it once only
Are you sure? Like really really sure?
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Obviously. Im not a hindu to believe in avagon, first thing, next, the life hereafter is actually going to be very plain, kinda divine and less spicy. so here you have all chances to play according to your rules.
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play according to your rules.
Are you sure? Like really really sure? : p
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im outa here.
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but you are still here!
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Someone I know broke a 2 year long engagement with his fiancée in Pakistan to marry the girl of his dreams he met in the UK.... ermm not a very nice thing to do.
Good for him though, he's happy in his own world. It is very easy to say on an online forum that we should pursue our dreams without caring about others but then, in the real world, they call such people selfish and whatnot.
If it was a simple haan, you can easily opt out. If it was an engagement to which you happily agreed to, things get a little bit more complicated.
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Someone I know broke a 2 year long engagement with his fiancée in Pakistan to marry the girl of his dreams he met in the UK.... ermm not a very nice thing to do.
Good for him though, he's happy in his own world. It is very easy to say on an online forum that we should pursue our dreams without caring about others but then, in the real world, they call such people selfish and whatnot.
If it was a simple haan, you can easily opt out. If it was an engagement to which you happily agreed to, things get a little bit more complicated.
I know what you mean barbie. And I agree that an engagement is something very complicated. BUT if she or he marries for the wrong reasons, will it not be wrong as well? considering her or his partner will suffer as a consequence?
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I know what you mean barbie. And I agree that an engagement is something very complicated. BUT if she or he marries for the wrong reasons, will it not be wrong as well? considering her or his partner will suffer as a consequence?
If it for were wrong reasons, he shud not have enagaged in the first place. He had done very wrong to his 2 year finace. Very bad and insensitive. May be thats why elders do not want to have longer periods of engagements.
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I know what you mean barbie. And I agree that an engagement is something very complicated. BUT if she or he marries for the wrong reasons, will it not be wrong as well? considering her or his partner will suffer as a consequence?
True. If one partner isn't going to be faithful towards the other, better to break off all ties than ruining more than one lives. Although, he/she will hurt many people by doing that too. Tough, I suppose.
If it for were wrong reasons, he shud not have enagaged in the first place. He had done very wrong to his 2 year finace. Very bad and insensitive. May be thats why elders do not want to have longer periods of engagements.
Yup, agreed. Why was he eyeing other potential life partners after being happily engaged to someone he liked? Obviously not a loyal person so, in a way, good for the girl too, she deserved better.