Re: Has anyone come across anyone..without being ever married?
My phuphos never married. Poor decisions by my dada and dadi. They never liked a rishta, had problem with caste etc. Uff.
Re: Has anyone come across anyone..without being ever married?
Yes, in my father’s family. A lady who’s almost 50 and never married by her own choice.
Re: Has anyone come across anyone..without being ever married?
Met a distant relative recently who was not married. She is in her late fifties and when I asked her why did she not she said she wasnt medically able to get married. So she served her parents till the parents passed away and afterwards her brothers turned her out of the house. Now some philanthropist has given her a one room house to live. Two or three relatives have fixed her few hundred rs monthly and few others or neighbours send her breakfast lunch and dinner food. It tore my.heart to know all this plight of hers. Such is the life of those who spend all their life in.khidmat of parents and family. They are left alone full of purposelessness and helpleasness when their parents pass away. Surely Allah will give her the best reward but it.is really v heart aching to see someone suffer like that. I wish she were medically fit to get married. Maybe her children wouldnt be as bad as her siblings turned out to be.
Re: Has anyone come across anyone..without being ever married?
Why does marriage have to be a must anyways? It’s always made to seem as so devastating and pitiful to see a person, especially a woman not married. Her job is a source of income so hopefully she will be strong in that aspect and devote herself to it and if she has a child then her maternal side has been satisfied. I often think that marriage as natural as it might seem for people to always seek it out as opposed to being alone, but as strange as it might seem, I’m happy, I have a child already, I have a job that I hope i’ll always be happy in and when I see the number of unhappy married people, or ones that have to swallow a spouse being unfaithful or mistreating or abusing them, I’m glad i’m not married. I pray that I will always be healthy enough to not depend on another person too much.
The more I meet some of the guys off of the marriage sites, the more I feel like it takes a very special,strong bond between two people to produce a happy marriage and not everybody will get that. I hope I never feel like I have to marry someone just so I can have the “married” label, which ain’t all that. The gasp “you’re not married?” looks don’t really get me.
Re: Has anyone come across anyone..without being ever married?
I don’t know exactly what her “medical reason” might be but maybe she could find a companion in the form of a man that is also not “medically fit to get married”…? They could understand each other’s situation and be married for the sake of having a partner in life…?
Re: Has anyone come across anyone..without being ever married?
@Muzna, this is what she said when i was like shocked that she wasnt married, “beta mai shadi k qabil nahi thi”. Apparently her parents took.her to many drs for treatment but it.didnt work and drs advised the parents to not.to pain.her to get her married.and rather let her live with them (parents) and khidmat.them. This is plainly what she said. Yes it.could.be like you said, but.here in a remote small town of southern punjab, things dont really work that way. Unfortunately she is not even educated enough to do some proper job like teaching at least which could get her a better and independent life.
Re: Has anyone come across anyone..without being ever married?
Several:
My auntys husbands sister - never married and spent her life looking after her mother. Always seemed happy in her life
My dad’s neighbours who live in Pakistan - a whole family of sibling who chose never to marry. 5 of them I think, all in their 50s now and still happy and just living their life
My European aunty has a friend who is in her 40s and never married, she seems content in her life
Female cousin nearing 40, never married, happy in her life
Old work colleague who is 36, his 4 siblings are all married with children. He hasn’t married because he hasn’t found anyone but it’s never made him miserable. He just carries on living his life and says it will happen when it happens
Same applies to my old boss, mid 40s and never married because he never found ‘the one’. He doesn’t care though and despite his old age still thinks he will find someone someday
And my sister is only 33 but she has told people she will never marry and seems happy in her life.
I’ve never heard of anyone who is miserable from never being married. Why should they be, that’s life. You either carry on living your life and appreciating what you’ve got or you keep looking until you find someone. There are so many options so don’t understand why you can’t find someone. 7 billion people and you can’t find 1, really?