Ignore the beast! LOL. I think husbands sisters can b like this all over the world, not just restricted to desi's. bcos my one of my english friend has had a similar problem with hers. She was plan mean, they lived near eachother. However, as soon as friend moved away very far, SIL was amazingly all sweetness and light on her next visit.
Moral of the story - if she is so much a thorn in your backside, MOVE FAAAR FAR AWAY.
[staying away is the bestest solution for this problem honey, i'm suffering from almost the same problem.. and here my SIL is elder than me - so just imagine it's more worse here.. she's 28 years old unmarried nand of mine.. and this is the best policy to just ignore them "forever" and give a deaf ear to whatever they say to you, lol - cheers.]
Re: Has any1 got engaged/married but doesnt get on with his sister?
Suggestion is simple and require rational attitude, sit with your fiance and tell him this is the issue... tell your feelings and ask him what to do and try to let him understand the attitude of her is mind boggling and irritating.Better I keep distance from her and both live happily at respective places rather with obnoxious looks at each other!
If your hubby is rational he should be OK!
Caution put everything nicely with your fiance coz bad words only fetch worst responses!
Also yes be nice with her especially when your fiance is there coz I can also not believe that when issue is among women then always its no single man fault rather of both or all!
Good luck
im just gona ignore her i finkk..... my fiance is in pakistan n im here in london so she says stuff to him and den he asks me lyk round round kerkehh... he doesnt tell me offo r nefing at all jus says i will luk at my own house she is in her own house now... challoo inshallahhhhh it will stay the way he sayin werna there be probs after our shadi... fank u all 4 the adviceeeeee ....xxx
shanno i m in the EXACT same boat as you plus her own nand and actaully all of her in laws also hate me and my family. arent i lucky? :)
bardasth and ignore and not take it too seriously. i find not taking it too seriosuly helps me out because at first i used to get really mad. dont give her so much imoortance that she knows she cana fect you in this way. show her that she doesnt even bother you at all and nothing negative she does can affect you negatively.
ive dun the ignoring technique last when she came to ma mums beauty salon few days bakk....i dunnoooo wah the cows.. sorry 4 bad languageee prob is.. mum sat me down 2 and has said to meee juss 4get anything has happenedd between u lottt and u be the bigger person and be niceee.. allah is watchinggg he will give me the reutrn in being the bigger person n ignoring her not any1 else.....
when she needs me which she willl in futuree coz she not settledd hereee so she will need to den she will run 2 me n begg for helpp n dats when i will tell her where 2 goo..
aghar she can show attitude main bhi baari bhabi hoon well goin to be older bhabiiii... i can be 10 steps ahead of her;)
i live here in london.... so i cant really move away away ... she here on visa a student one u kno da ones dat she not really a student but has the paperz.... i dont kno if she will get the perminant resident visa if she preggz but her husband is also here on visa... so it will be only her kid she has dat be british..
ignoring her dont workk... she licks my mums baksidee when she needs to use her and theres my mum who feels sorry for her and says dats my sister daughter we must help her in this staight any1 wud even help sum1 they dont kno and she is family...
after reading this all i can say is grow up hun:)seems like she simply doest like you......i wonder y
[staying away is the bestest solution for this problem honey, i'm suffering from almost the same problem.. and here my SIL is elder than me - so just imagine it's more worse here.. she's 28 years old unmarried nand of mine.. and this is the best policy to just ignore them "forever" and give a deaf ear to whatever they say to you, lol - cheers.]
Is that the root of all problems?
heaven forbid u have an 'old' single nand to deal with...
Re: Has any1 got engaged/married but doesnt get on with his sister?
I have had loads of incidents with my sil, but at the end I have just realized that nothing wud change by me being depressed or frustrated all the time.
I spoke to hubby about it and he understood me well so now I m pretty laid back that since he knows what goes on, I dont need to panick every time there is something new coming up...
Re: Has any1 got engaged/married but doesnt get on with his sister?
Mine acted up a few times making (thinly) veiled comments that were not direct enough to challenge. So i sat her down and told her i was a very frank person and would expect anyone who has any problem with me to openly tell me about it so we can discuss the issue, do u have anything u want to say to me? She said no and stopped being so snide for a while. Recently she's been doing it again when i c her, but i just ignore it cos its bcos of her insecurities she is this way, not mine.