Harassment..

hayaa · February 6, 2002, 3:22am

A friend and I were discussing this; here is a few questions raised.

I myself am not so clear on how you define harassment. Would it suffice to say that it is some form of verbal/physical action of another person that makes you uncomfortable. And what is stalking? Someone keeping an eye on you when you’re out, or phone calls made pretending to be someone else/wrong numbers?

And the last on my list of questions: what’s the best way to tell a guy to buzz off without fearing it may trigger a threatening reaction?

CocoNut · February 6, 2002, 3:40am

Originally posted by hayaa:
I myself am not so clear on how you define harassment. Would it suffice to say that it is some form of verbal/physical action of another person that makes you uncomfortable.

Any type of abuse which causes discomfort that is taken place after sufficient warning is considered harrassment.

And what is stalking? Someone keeping an eye on you when you’re out, or phone calls made pretending to be someone else/wrong numbers?
**Stalking is when one keeps an eye on u without knowing, invading your privacy and personal space, tapping your phone calls, watching you every move. **

And the last on my list of questions: what’s the best way to tell a guy to buzz off without fearing it may trigger a threatening reaction?

**Stop talking to him completely. If he makes contact, avoid him at all costs. Usually, leaving without a reason leaves us bedazzled/puzzled.

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Or just call me and DM, i’ll kick the guy when he’s down, DM will just sit on him

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Jitna Diya Sarkar Nay Mujko, Itni Meri Auqat Nahi, Yeh Saab Tumhara Karam Hai Aqa, Mujh Mein Aisi Koi Baat Nahin.

Courage is not the absence of fear but it is the will to go on.

aphrodite · February 6, 2002, 10:00am

any time u feel threatened by the guy (or girl) - it can fall in the category of harrassment. or not even threatened, but just feeling uncomfortable, or awkward. uneasy.

and the best way to tell a guy to buzz off without him backlashing is to say it in the least number of words (don't pad it up with 'niceness' types of words) & make it clear crystal to the guy you're not going to accept whatever type of behaviour from him. BUT be carefull to say it in a way that isn't a personal attack to him (else he will backlash).
Instead of saying, "You shouldn't do blah blah blah.." where it's as if u're ordering him, say instead something like, "I really didn't like that blah blah."
& now he knows how much u mind it. & even after saying it he doesn't stop..then u take a bit more of a serious action.

D500s · February 6, 2002, 1:29pm

The best way is to hint*

I got 4 bro’s and they own shotguns

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Sehar · February 6, 2002, 1:59pm

harassment: anything that makes me feel uneasy verbally/physically

stalking! eeegh…i think coco defined it pretty well…also you can add when someone’s following your every move knowing that you are uncomfortalbe with it.

some people just don’t get the hints, do they

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>>Or just call me and DM, i’ll kick the guy when he’s down, DM will just sit on him << alrite i know who’s dying today

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coco watch your back man, just watch your back…

system · February 8, 2002, 1:38pm

I personally don't think a male can claim harassment from a woman. The other way around it is guilty until proven innocent. I also believe that harassment is defined to broadly. I believe it is intentional aim to make you upset or uneasy. If you feel uncomfortable but the person doing it does it without the aim to insult or hurt you, I don't call that harassment.

Stalking has been pretty well defined. As for guys who don't take a hint, don't be direct and confrontational. That will not help in any way, and just leave bad blood. Ignoring the man and leaving when he is around will work pretty well.