Re: HaqMehar
Right. The deferred one can be given over a period of time but I believe one must be given before consummating the marriage.
I don't have a source for all this because the Imam told me all this at the time of my Nikah. I am sure this information is somewhere out there on the web.
Sind sagar I think your statement "determined by the bride and agreed upon her family" is incorrect. The girl cannot ask for it. The family cannot ask for it. In fact, they can't even suggest.
***right! .... In order to be practical is what I mean the sum has to be acceptable to the bride and her family..............
Groom may suggest a sum that does not meet the "Nisaab" expectation of the brides family.................hence in order to avoid all embarrassment it is more practical that groom consult the bride and her family before declaring the Haq Mahr in the Nikkah Naama..........
The main reason being that half of that amount is due before rukhsati(or the bride can waive:)) and the other half is due if marraige fails...........:(