What does islam say about haq mehr? How much is allowed to be demanded from the guy?
Is it true that haq mehr should be equivivalent to the guy’s one year income? if so plz provide me with the source. thanks.
Is is better to receive haq mehr at time of nikkah or should one state in the nikkah nama that haq mehr should be paid if divorce occurs?
What is the best way to deal with haq mehr discussions?
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Haq Mehr is a right of Women when men get them into Nikah. It is like a gift which men give them on Nikah. Yes they can reserve some of it for after divorce. But Allah has strictly ordered men to pay this and not to take it without the permission of women.
It is the right of women on Nikah.
About quantity, it is not stated in bounded way. It is stated in Quran that it will be better if you pay more Mehr to your women and it is a special gift for them from theor husband. It is up to the man how he could afford. Not based on yearly income.
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Haq Mehr is anything that is the gift of nikaah given to the woman by the man…
she can ask for any amount she pleases (ofcourse being a reasonable amount)…
its better to be paid at time of nikaah or whenever the woman asks for it…
there is no fixed amount for it…
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The thingy about the guy's salary equivalent is not for haq mehr but for the dimaond ring. Make sure it is at least worth his three month salary!
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I thought haq mehr is to be given at the time of consummation and not how Pakistanis believe that it's only to be given if the woman is divorced.
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^ its written in the "nikaahnama" whether the mehr is to be given before or at divorce....
whatever u have written on ur nikaahnama, that is how u have to pay it....
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Very interesting. I never knew that. If my memory serves me right, I've read it's to be given at the time of consummation. In any case, good to learn from another perspective. Will look up stuff on it later on, insha'Allah.
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^ its only based on the mutual understanding of the couple....
no strict rules....
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Yep, as soon as the person with a responsibility is a 'man', NO STRICT RULES! otherwise all the minor detail.
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^ what an ignorant comment....
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Read surat ul nisa. It says a woman can ask as much as she want and it can be in any form meaning money, jewlery, a garden, etc, etc. If the husband does not have what she has asked for at the time of marriage then it is a loan on him. He can pay it to his wife as he gets more resources.
It would be ideal if he can pay it right after nikkah but if he doesn't have the means, he can pay in instalments.
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The first thing in this discussion is the actual word,
It is MAHR not MEHR.
This distinction is important because in Urdu usage there are two words, MEHR and MAHR.
MEHR is from Farsi and it means kindness. From this we have words such as MEHRBAAN and MEHRBAANI.
MAHR is an Arabic word and its plural is AMHAAR, This is the woman's asking for her AJR at the time of Nikah, there is no upper limit to it. The Arabic words used for it in the Holy Qur'an are AJR (plural AJOOR) and SADUQAT (plural SADUQAAT).
The word MAHR has been used in Hadeeth.
The MAHR that is mentioned in the Qur'an is that of Hazrat Moosa. When prophet Shoaib decided to marry one of his daughters to Moosa, he asked for eight years of hard labour on his farm, which Hazrat Moosa fulfilled.
MAHR is of two kinds: (i) MAHR MOVAJJAL (MAHR to be paid at a given time after the Nikah (ii) MAHR MO'AJJAL ( to be paid immediately after the Nikah.
Thank you
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good read
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Haqq e mehr is as much as you can afford to pay upfront and NOT deferred. in our culture, we see Haqq e mehr as financial security against talaaq with an intention to have the payment deferred for which brides are instructed by parents to do so on the suhaagraat...it's NOT the intention of Islam...Islam considers Haqq e mehr as goodwill gesture towards a his wife in appreciation.
it has become more of a legal thing than a token of appreciation. what a crooked thinking. :(
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Read surat ul nisa. It says a woman can ask as much as she want and it can be in any form meaning money, jewlery, a garden, etc, etc. If the husband does not have what she has asked for at the time of marriage then it is a loan on him. He can pay it to his wife as he gets more resources. It would be ideal if he can pay it right after nikkah but if he doesn't have the means, he can pay in instalments.
Ohh dear! Don't tell Quran says it. If this is the case then women make such wishes that no husband can fulfill. What I read and heard from scholars, according to Shariah it should be a mutual decision of husband and wife to decide but in our country parents decide it and it can't be as much as you want rather whatever reasonable because Allah never wants to put burden on oneself.
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Great post Janaab. Learned a good deal about the origin of the word. :k:
Taking further from your last statement, MAHR MOVAJJAL has Wow in it and (ii) MAHR MO’AJJAL has ‘Ain’ in it.
First one comes from Ajal (with Alif) that means term but also used in the meaning of ‘End’, hence “wo luqma-e-Ajal bun gaye” means he died.
Second one comes from the word Ujlat, means in hurry, so it has to be paid ASAP.
Just added this so its easy for people to remember which one is which.
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aur don't forget sikka e muravijah [if it's in Rupees, then don't convert in Dollars, which 60 times less for Indians and 105 times less for Pakistanis...lol]
mehr e movajjal is like a deferred payment until death...meaning you can "have wife NOW and pay LATER]. :D
the best mehr is the one that is paid up front and NOT deferred. so, we must fix a mahr, according to our Haisiyat [status], that with can pay up with ease.