Can a wife demand from her husband to make a promise as a Haq mahar ( if the promise she is demanding is not anything against islamic rules ) …
And if he makes a promise …will it b like faraz on him to do that thing ..? Is there any hadith about it? (Wife is giving an option to make a promise n he willingly n happily makes it)…
Re: Haq Mahar
Mehar is her right. He has to pay it unless she forgives with her own free will.
Anyone can correct me if I am wrong.
Re: Haq Mahar
Diwana is correct. It is girls right. But remember, in Pakistani society husband or his family try their best to write “Ada Ker Diya” in the space given on Nikah nama (like paid in shape of gold or so). It means it has been paid. Later, if marriage is not successful, wife can’t claim it. Even if she seeks help of law, it will take a lot of time and useless.
Beside haq mehar thing, make sure you are marrying someone with good character. Family is good, etc. Also,
I am strong believer of match making (astrological) between boy and girl. There is a software to do it free. Go here Astrology software, AstroMart program
Thank you my dear.
My friend, I wish you had not written the third paragraph about astronomy.
The woman has all the right to her mehar and can or should be able to demand anytime without any fear.
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thanx ....
i wanted to know that is it always money or gold etc or u can ask for something else ... *I'll give an example like if wife asks her husband that make a promise as haq mahar to me that we'll live in certain place n will not move to xyz place ( nothing against islamic rules or not to take him apart from anyone..... just a simple wish ) and the husband agrees to that will he be obliged to do so if there is no problem in doing that...? *
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Not sure about the promise thing but I know it doesn't have to be money or gold. I have heard of women asking for just a Qur'an (esp amongst reverts) or even just a piece of fruit.
U can always put the promise in as a condition of the nikah contract (Arab women often incorporate conditions, expectations etc in theirs) if it is something really important to u then ask for something v.small as maher as well.
above lines r agreed bt i dnt agree with astrolgoy besause islam dnt hve space 4 it, Allah knw every thing abt r future.
Mehar is her right. He has to pay it unless she forgives with her own free will.
Anyone can correct me if I am wrong.
I dont this this is the case. Haq Meher is right of the women and should not be forgiven. I have not seen any example from holy Prophet SAW where his wives giving up their demands for Haq mehr.
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You can add any clause to your nikkah nama. So if you want to obligate him not to move from a certain country , for example, then you can add that onto the nikkah nama. He breaks the agreement, then you can fight it on some grounds.
I dont this this is the case. Haq Meher is right of the women and should not be forgiven. I have not seen any example from holy Prophet SAW where his wives giving up their demands for Haq mehr.
[Nisa 4:4] And give the women their bridal money willingly; then if they willingly give you a part of it, eat (use) it with joy and fruition.
Here it talks about not actually forgiving but indirectly it is the case.
Don't get me wrong, a man should not look for the reasons to get it forgiven.
I am not aware of Mehar deals in those marriages but the reason could be that meher amount was never beyond the limit of the man and it is prohibited to make excessive amount of mehar requirement. Besides they did consider meher as her absolute right as it should be these days.
This issue may need further search.
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^ Ok thats great....thanks for the info...I must have been thinking something else.
^ Ok thats great....thanks for the info...I must have been thinking something else.
You're welcome my friend. :-)