mem saab, well halala is just a joke with ur own God. well let me explain it. divorce is the only allowed thing, which Allah doesnt like. but it is allowed in extremely situations. and if anybody wanna have divorce he has to think about this decision again and again. but if he always wanna have divorce, then it means for me that it was his greates intention to bedivorced coz it was impossible to live with the other person. and they are divorced.
well after divorce it should not be the intention, that the woman has to mary coz she wants a divorce from the other husband. thats a strictly bad intention of a marriage. and Allahs sees intentions. in other words i think, ppl gonna trick to their God? and what about the second man?? and if u make a contract with the second person that he should only sleep with the woman, i am ashamed of my great religion, which is denouncing a woman??
the intentions are the main in this case.
i think the condition of having divorce once again is coz talaq should not be normal in our lives. and this condition is only to show the persons, that they might think about divorce again and agian and agian. not only talaq, talaq, talaq. as it is usually used. talaq is a very sensitive topic. and halala is just a joke with Allah. i dont believe on halala.
Following is based on my discussions with scholars of Islam both in USA & Fedral Shariat Court in Pak.Divorce is most disliked of all allowable things by Allah.If a Man divorces his wife when he is mentaly competent (Irrespective if he says 1 time, 3 times or more)and if he cohabitates (sex)"rajooh"till her next mestural cycle or month it is counted as one.And next month he proclaims "Talaq" again and once again does "rajooh" with his wife till next cycle it is counted as 2nd.and after 3rd time he does Not do "rajooh" till next cycle/month then this 3rd and last Talaq.OR He doesn NOT do "rajooh" for 3 consecutive 3 months after proclaiming "Talaq'on his wife it is declared Talaq.It is common sensical to understand that 2 persons cannot live together after so many tries and better part their ways.When husband gives Talaq he has to give "Hakh Mehar"/dowery.And when women gives divorce/Khula then she has to leave Mehar.
This is the way Judges of Islamic court decide on daily basis in Islamic Shariat Court in Islamabad.Pakistan.Not the other way around with so called "Halala".I have heard that in certain villages in Pakistan Mullas do Hallala with a Chicken and then eat it themselves.Advocates of Hallala say this is detterent against Divorce.And may be Husband was impotent sexualy and wife get's a way out of marriage.As women are mostly keeping this to themselves in orthodox Islamic society
[This message has been edited by Buley Shah (edited August 01, 2000).]