Today I went out with a friend of mine along with a brother of mine. Anyhow, upon being dropped off by the friend, I decided to sit and chat with him for a few minutes while brother went inside.
I was wearing a long sleeve shirt but the sleeve was pulled up a little. Upon seeing that, my friend remarked that I had hairy arms like a gorilla. My jaw dropped. He proceeded to tell me that he would lend me the money to have them waxed because they were simply unsightly. I was speechless. The worst part is, over the years different guys have told me something similar. It was never a concern for me. Atleast not hair on the arms.
No girlfriend has ever told me this, only guys. Why is that? Is it such a big issue? I had no idea! sigh
Learn to love yourself, then learn to love one-another
As for is it a big issue, well, depends. Everyone has hair on their body, its the density thats the issue with females. If it resembles anything like the back of Austin Powers, then waxing is not such a bad idea. But if its not, then some females choose to leave it as is. You've got to decide how you would like to leave it.
[This message has been edited by RKH (edited March 14, 2002).]
sorry munni
Well i have to say, that was one of the most disturbing thing to say. I am wondering y u didnt slap hi in the face. I mean i would have em beaten up real good.
you know, i don't think I would be giving waxing advice to my female friends regardless of how good of a friend they are. Isn't it more of a female talk than a guy-female talk. I mean whats next?? is he gonna start offering advice on "cramps" or feminine napkins??
[This message has been edited by ghalib (edited March 15, 2002).]
Well, I think if ur arms are too hairy then waxing or using hair-removal cream isn't a bad idea. I'd say that guy was rude but maybe he was being more straightforward and wanted to help u out. About girlfriends telling u what u really need, nahh, most girls never want their fellow female friends to look good. The rest is up to u.
leave this matter for your hubby....
if he says he doesnt like them, remove them and if he doesnt no need to bother yourself....
and if any other guy tells u, just stare back at him with wide open eyes so he'll know its better to keep his mouth shut....
why should she leave this matter for her future husband to decide upon her? What about her own taste and feelings. If she wants to keep hair on her arms than its her choice and not her husbands, he has to accept the fact that she isnt keen on waxing her arms.
He certainly was blunt about his comment, but in the end it’s what makes you content that counts. Also sometime when we hear input from someone of the opposite gender it’s perceived differently than it would be if someone of the same gender says it.
As far as your girlfriends not saying anything well either they don’t think it’s a issue to be brought up because they know your indifferent to it, or it may be that they don’t feel its their decision to make. But I guess I don’t agree with that comment about girlfriends not wanting each other to look good thus never pointing out stuff and lying to you, their not really your best friend(s) if they don’t want you to feel your best.
I'm one of those guys who gets freaked by hair on any visible part of a female except on her head - but I have never, and would never, mention anything about it to a female friend.
However much body hair a woman wants is her own business. The only person who might possibly have so much a right to comment on it is her husband - and even then, he should at least be subtle about it.
Munni, you do what you wanna do, if it bothers u get rid of it, if it doesn’t, stick with it, don’t worry about what other people say, it’s your body-you go girl!
Munni I guess we all wanna know how close this 'friend' of urs is to u?
If one of my (male) friends would make sucha comment abt my arms then I'd probbaly be shocked aswell....and I'd speak up...
but then again if it is a close/good friend then I probbaly wouldn't mind (depends on how he brings it to me)
And I dont think it's a big deal...but ofcourse there r ppl who make it a big deal!
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