Inspiron was meeting him in public.. no different to sitting in a mixed lecture hall or getting on the tube to go to work everyday.. Obviously there are non-mehrams everywhere.. it's only being left alone with them which is the problem in religious terms..
**Getting to know the person = seeing if you're compatible..
Not exactly a good idea to marry someone who has completely different values from you..**
thanks girl this is what I was wanting to say to but i felt like I was repeating myself...
geez..the only problem these guys are having really is that inspiron and for that matter the rest of us used the word date instead of meeting... lighten up on the use of words for christ's sake man its not like she was being romantic with him and even if she was ... we're all in such a good place to judge arent we since all of us well you know 100% pious /rolls eyes
i think this thread needs to be closed before it becomes a should you or should you not date(meet) before marriage topic
islam does not permit and man and woman to meet in a private setting where they are alone but meeting in a public setting, especially with a potential rishta is permissible
that meeting is often referred to as a "Date" by desis because well some of us dont dissect our words before we speak
like i said sometimes desis use the words "date" and "meet" interchangeably (sometimes we just dont think about the difference alright...and even in a "non-arrange" setting some ppl actually date not just for timepass but because they want to marry the person they are with)... kheyr aapko lafz pe aitraaz hai she meant "meet" but she wrote "Date" ...hate to break it to you but she had a "meeting" in a public place with a guy who was a rishta prospect that her family knew about... it was meeting for the purpose of marriage not for sh*ts and giggles...
in either case you or I are in no place to judge her for what she does or doesnt do ...thats between her and god
lets just agree to disagree and move on form this discussion its getting us no where :)
Whats the gurantee even if you meet or date some one you will understand him. People become fake they put up a fake show most of the time during dates.
marriage is a serious business and dating is just for fun. We date for a lit bit fun and have laugh :)
Dating is not just for fun at all. You've been watching way too many Amreekan sitcoms.
Non-desies date as a way of getting to know the person for marriage purposes as well...their terms are just a bit different from ours. Its all the same buddy.
meeting someone at coffee place rather than in tube or lecture halls makes sense
just sitting in coffee place, tube or lecture halls makes sense too
how is meeting someone at a coffee place related to commuting? or sitting in lectures?
that wasnt even my point.
rest are way too vague for me to reply to
Inspiron was meeting him in public.. no different to sitting in a mixed lecture hall or getting on the tube to go to work everyday.. Obviously there are non-mehrams everywhere.. it's only being left alone with them which is the problem in religious terms..
**Getting to know the person = seeing if you're compatible..
Not exactly a good idea to marry someone who has completely different values from you..**
you date coz ur odds may not be that high. its like trial and error?
Whats the gurantee even if you meet or date some one you will understand him. People become fake they put up a fake show most of the time during dates.