Re: Guys - my engagement is off ( i think )
One of my friends…who is super religious…told me recently that engagements are okay in Islam. I really don’t know what the rulings are on the matter.
But let’s take your argument that you can’t get to know a na-mehram. You say that it’s okay to meet someone…but err…what are they going to talk about in the meeting? The weather? The furniture in the room? The dots on the ceiling? If two mature adults KNOW fully well that they are meeting for the purpose of marriage…then I don’t see any harm in getting to know one another during the meeting/s. They can ask important questions related to marriage. It’s one thing if they’re just meeting for a date and have no serious intentions whatsoever. But in the event that they both have the intention to get to know someone for marriage…I think they dynamics are different because I doubt that it would drag on forever and ever. If after that meeting or a particular time…they find one another unsuitable…things come to an end. And because the two individuals know their purposes/intentions…then they’d be more mindful of their limits compared to two people who are just fooling around with no serious long-term goal in mind.