you just aint ready for a commitment.. and wudnt you want your wife to take care of your mother ..let her rest .. since you gave her enuf hard time till now ... thas why you ve turned out like this .. k the word shadi .. cant even register in your mind .. that there is something like this ..
Marrying at early age was common earlier, but now it is out of fashion now.
On myself was arranged to marry my wife at age of 20. It helps being from small business family (no one would wait for one be establish). After 26 years of marriage I can share some positives and negatives.
Positive:-
Now at late 40s, i can see almost all of my children grown up (i have 4 children 25,24.23 and 13), going into next (probably last) stage of my life i feel satisfied and comfortable, that being marry and having children early, given me opportunity to support my children when i was still young and full of energy.
Even if Allah call me now, i would not go worrying about them.
Negatives:-
We were different animal all together, I grown up in Karachi, not much educated Metric but have very intellectual sophisticated circle and involve in political activities of the time. And she is small town girl from Sind, with limited interests and understand about
That resulting in obvious mismatch in term of thinking. Actually we have nothing in common, that bring lot of friction earlier. but there were obvious commencement on both sides. that help us to through the period.
Looking back after 26 years, i feel i am lucky to have her, but also feels sorry for her to have husband like me.
The moral of story it this;-
There are obvious advantages of early marriage, but with the time society has changed, do does peoples aspiration. Now it is ok to wait a bit (but not too much no one want to see his children very young when they reaching end of their working life).
On the same token i would like add, finding love is very important but the feelings would never remain same in the life.
I is better to find someone whom one could committed, to get through life. Can young people make that decision?
Love is binding, when one is in love they obviously not looking at dark side of the person. We should have sane advice of parents and other stake holders (it is your life if things goes down everyone is going to suffer thus they are stake holder).
