Re: Guy vs. Girl’s family - who foots the bill
My husband & I planned and paid for our entire wedding. Our parents had already told us that they wanted to know how much we spent b/c they wanted to contribute. BUT husband and I agreed to set a budget where we ourselves could afford to pay for it out of our own bank accounts. My dad told me he wanted to pay for half the expenses…FIL said to same thing. So we got the checks for those amounts on the wedding day.
I don’t know of any family (my own extended or friends) where in-laws paid for ALL baby expenses. The parents of the baby pay for majority of it. Grandparents on BOTH sides contribute…but its the responsibility of the couple who chose to bring the baby into this world to foot majority of the bill.
My in-laws are like that. After dating my husband/being engaged for almost 3 years, I KNEW that my husband wasn’t like that. Both of us were also settled in our careers so I knew that not being able to afford something on our own wouldn’t be an issue. Marriages fall apart b/c husband and wife aren’t on the same page and aren’t willing to work as a team, and stand up for one another.
If your fiancé is ok with a beach wedding, and if BOTH of you are able to resist pressure from family, then I don’t see why not. We did (or did not do) plenty of things at our wedding that our parents didn’t agree with. And I know others (desi couples) that do the same.