Re: Guy stopped talking to me cos of my mum?!?! Need advice!
This guy is in no way super shy(since he was so openly flirting with you more than once) and sensitive to take on such a huge grudge causing him to never reply to you. So, you can rule out crippling shyness as reason for him not replying. If a guy was really into you as in long term, he would move mountains to stay in touch with you as in he just has to have you. He would be acting the same way you’re acting now. He’s a jerk for blowing you off and your apology.
What exactly is he doing that’s keeping him so busy, that he can’t respond to a tiny FB message especially, if it’s from a girl he’s really in love with? You aren’t a priority in his life. If you were, as busy as he might be, he would call you or message or think of some way to make sure he does not lose touch with you.
I apologize on his behalf . Like others have said if he’s meant for you, you two will somehow be together especially if your mind is making up all kinds of situations of why he’s not contacting you, like his grandma died, or he had a huge deadline, or :insert crazy excuse here:…lol. All of those reasons still would never stop a human being from completely losing touch with that special person in their life.
Re: Guy stopped talking to me cos of my mum?!?! Need advice!
Hahaha
Just an update. He replied lol. He said he was sorry for not replying sooner because he thought the message had sent (bull****). That everything is good But he will ‘stay in his limits’.
I guess theres not much else he can say but all this ajeeb sa drama has put me off a bit.
Not sure what to do/say or if i should do/say anything.
With regards to the flirting openly, i dont know most guys here the UK are like that. Its RARE. So even though yes guys are like that and its bad…i swear to you its hard to find a 25 year old guy looking to commit.
Re: Guy stopped talking to me cos of my mum?!?! Need advice!
You’re still “not sure” what you should do or say? I am going to be very blunt here when I say that I found your uncertainty to be very disturbing. I hope it won’t earn me your bud-dua for that…but seriously it does bother me because you have received plenty of guidance. As for bud-duas (which is another topic on its own)…it’s best to leave your bud-duas for the people that truly do some damage to you and not for the the folks online whom you cannot even see and who are trying to help out.
Go read your last post…again. You yourself have called his reason “bullchit,” so if his excuse sounds that lame to you…then there should be no confusion about what you should do next. You simply need to move on, just let him go. Unless you want to keep talking to him and get caught up in a cycle of immature behavior. Been there, done that. In my experience, when a guy makes these types of mistakes just one time…he may apologize but it’s only a matter of time before the mistake is repeated again… or you begin to see a pattern of the same behavior. So, it’s up to you. Given the amount of help you’re received here, none of us can get you out of this unnecessary confusion. The only person who can do that is you. And it all boils down to your will power and self-respect in my opinion. So, decide how strong or weak you want to be.
But here’s my issue: If you still want to be with him, then don’t call his excuse “bullcrap” because that creates a contradiction. And if you truly DO see his excuse as lame rubbish, then respect yourself enough to move on.
However, if you do decide to get sucked into his “charms”…(strong emphasis on those quotations), I suggest your protect yourself by not allowing yourself to get attached to him. Maintain your boundaries and do let him know about those boundaries and what your expectations from a guy are. If he doesn’t like them, bhaar main jaaye. Keep a time limit for yourself. If your parents are searching rishtay for you and if you hope to be married in the near future…then don’t allow yourself to get sucked into a very loooooong “get to know you” stage with a guy where it just drags on and on…or he plays hot and cold…and then you become attached to the point that it becomes hard to move on.
Allah shows us red flags early on in our interactions with people. And we see those red flags clearly but our emotions and the attraction we feel for the person can make us too weak to actually take those red flags seriously enough to drop the guy/girl.
Yeah, it’s becoming increasingly RARE to find guys that act like true virtuous gentlemen. But it’s also becoming increasingly RARE to find girls that are both strong and smart enough to drop a guy at a much earlier stage…when they start seeing those red flags. So, one can’t put all of the blame on the chichoray larkay. After all, those guys are receiving encouragement from girls that are waaayy too soft-hearted and tolerant and weak and easily willing to give them many chances. It goes both ways.
Re: Guy stopped talking to me cos of my mum?!?! Need advice!
Redvelvet although I do appreciate your help I don’t come on here to be scolded LOL. I understand you are talking from your experience but that should also tell you that it is easier said then done to use your head in every situation over your emotions. As of yet I haven’t done anything I am just thinking.
Anyway I am sure that you’re probably almost 100% right because unfortunately that’s just how it seems to go these days regardless I’m just expressing my feelings so please calm down lol
Re: Guy stopped talking to me cos of my mum?!?! Need advice!
Many of my son’s friends hang out with us and they seem to be very committed to their girlfriends. My 18 yr old is in a relationship and I have mentored him to be caring and message his gf everyday. He told me he calls her when he is walking to his class so as not to waste study time.
Re: Guy stopped talking to me cos of my mum?!?! Need advice!
hell no, i have only been speaking to him a couple months, why would i tell her so soon? LOL
when it comes to the marriage stage with whoever then i will inform my parents.
Re: Guy stopped talking to me cos of my mum?!?! Need advice!
****as in cos thats what they are cool with, all siblings have had love marriages. we dont just discuss our dating/whoever we are talking to just willy nilly unless it is serious
. Like others have said if he’s meant for you, you two will somehow be together especially if your mind is making up all kinds of situations of why he’s not contacting you, like his grandma died, or he had a huge deadline, or :insert crazy excuse here:…lol. All of those reasons still would never stop a human being from completely losing touch with that special person in their life.
