Guy paying for entire wedding - is it fair?

[WendyDarling]

Re: Guy paying for entire wedding - is it fair?

@DesiSamosa

Another thing they do, not sure if all of them do it, but some of my friends told me this and I found it really weird. On the day of their wedding night, they place a white cloth and if consummation happens & the girl’s a virgin (she bleeds), they show the cloth to the mother in law. I found that very odd. :S Something like that is very personal and should only remain between the husband and wife… granted she’s your mother in law but that is just WEIRD. She is no one to ask you/your husband to prove you’re a virgin. :S

You should REALLLY stop listening to your friends. PLEASE!

Wow … talk about being judgmental. That’s like saying ALL pakistani’s ask for dowry. Or all men are idiots.

[WendyDarling]

Re: Guy paying for entire wedding - is it fair?

@fuzzypeach

Pakistani guys don't know how good they have it, marry an Arab girl and you'll know, she will keep you in your toes!!!

Your post is rude and offensive! There I said it.

Arab girls are not monsters for gods sake!!!!

[Hulahoop_Queen]

Re: Guy paying for entire wedding - is it fair?

I think it is completely upto the couple and their families to reach an agreement on wedding payments. It is something that can be worked out. I wouldnt recommend missing out on a good person bc of this reason. Another thing is that marriage lasts on foundations of trust, faith, loyalty even in this day and age, regardless of how big or small a wedding was and who paid for it. Fair thing to do would be to split the cost 50-50.

[fuzzypeach]

Re: Guy paying for entire wedding - is it fair?

Rude, says you! No they are not monsters, I never said, so you shouldn't be offended. My youngest sisters best friend is also Arab and my middle sister too! I said they know how to keep guys on their toes - all three of our friends have said it numerous times and thier Arab!!! Say what you want but from my experience, my sons will never marry an Arab! There I said it!!!

[KashmiriSadozai]

Re: Guy paying for entire wedding - is it fair?

Every culture has their own way of having weddings, the Arabs arent as homogeneous as we make them out to be and neither are muslim desis - it depends on how cultural the family wants the wedding to be or how religious. Some of my family friends have done the nikah and have had the ruksati on that night and not bothered with a mehndi or waleema, and others make sure they have a every single cultural wedding event. I honestly think its what makes weddings so exciting every one does it differently and honestly the cultural rasms are heaps of fun and symbolic of our culture - why shud they be belittled bcuz the arabs or others do it differently? As long as we are not making them extremely unislamic, y not.

As for the guys paying for everything, I've noticed its more cultural thing, the girls side in arab and afghan cultures would never initiate the rishta as in ask the guys side for the guys hand (Generalisation, I know). In most cases, desi's don't do that either but they are not that stringent on that aspect, Ive seen the girls side indirectly suggest they like a guys family for a potential rishta and in some cases pursue the guys family.

[LHR1]

Re: Guy paying for entire wedding - is it fair?

Most probably due to Arabs non serious attitude towards marriages..They usually take females for granted or to fullfill there sexual appetite.I have travelled to Kuwait, There I met a Kuwaiti guy who was 22 and married, so we had a general discussion about culture, traditions cum married life.In short he terrified me by his perspective about females, there they pay huge amount of mehr to brides family, mehr differs according to different brides standard, how pretty, educated and so on and if the girl happen to be divorced or 25+, she is useless according to him and most of the Arabs.