Guy is from very traditional family, I am not

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Re: Guy is from very traditional family, I am not

@redvelvet

Good grief, him being 2 years younger is no big deal. I can understand if the parents or the older generation has hangups over the guy being 2 years younger…and I have seen people make a big deal if the girl is only a few months to a few days older than the guy, but it’s sad when that anxiety rubs off from the parents to the younger generation. I can understand if it was 5-10 years, but 2 years is no biggie and it appears the guy has no issue with it or he wouldn’t even consider the rishta in the first place. It’s a bigger deal if you notice a pronounced difference in his maturity level and yours. But if he’s overall mature and responsible, that’s what matters more.

The difference in lifestyle is a bigger concern than the age difference, imo. It’s something you should talk to him about rather than make assumptions. Bring up the difference with him, ask him his expectations in terms of culture, maybe bring up hypothetical scenarios and ask his opinion. Will you be living with his family? If so, then that will naturally require more compromise from you. And most importantly, do istikhara. If Allah in His wisdom know this this rishta to be best for u, it will be facilitated with ease. If not, then it’ll come to an end and consider yourself saved.

I agree, age shouldn’t be an issue. It isn’t an issue for me or my family (After they met). They liked that he was mature and responsible.

I’m not expected to live with his family, we are actually considering both moving for our work to another state.

Jazakallah khair for the advice, I appreciatei it