Guy is from very traditional family, I am not

[Paheli00]

Re: Guy is from very traditional family, I am not

@pollianna

This man comes from the opposite family, a very culturally desi family. Does anyone have experience with this? He doesn’t mind that I don’t speak urdu, dont eat desi food or have desi clothes, but we are concerned what his family might think. That combined with being older?

Points to think about:

1. Does his family speak English (I’m assuming this is what you and your family speak)? If his family is not fluent in the language you guys speak, and your family doesn’t speak Urdu…well that’s going to create a issue at every family gathering and create a lot of misunderstandings in the future.

2. What about kids? Does HE want his future children to speak Urdu and eat desi food and know desi culture? You haven’t written anything about you willing to learn Urdu or being more “desi”. Will HE be ok with his children being as non-desi as you are?

3. Tell him to simply ask his family what they think about him marrying a girl who doesn’t speak Urdu, eat desi clothes, or wear desi clothes. How they react to this information will give you a good idea on what the future holds.