Re: guy-girl relationships AFTER shaadi
i think there shud b some limitations
but not like there shud b no guy friends
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Re: guy-girl relationships AFTER shaadi
g aap kion ankhein ghumaying?
Re: guy-girl relationships AFTER shaadi
When you get married, there has to be a limitation and reorientation.
One has to redefine their previous friendships after marriage even in the most liberal situation. First priority is the marriage and the relationing between husband and wife. Everything comes after it....
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^yes exactly.....u cant fight over wanting a social lifee
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360 degree view dekhra hon :D
Re: guy-girl relationships AFTER shaadi
Yup.
Although I don;t have any female friend(s) of this sort
When I'll get married, I'll myself limit all my male friends and any female(s), if any, to a reasonable limits without asking or waiting my spouse to say something or express a dissatisfaction over my behavior....
It is all common sense....
Re: guy-girl relationships AFTER shaadi
Exactly. :k:
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I said it was wrong because your wife felt hurt and betrayed by it.
Maybe i didn't say it before but if each spouse is okay with whatever the other does, then who are we to say anything. BUT if having male/female friends upsets your spouse, then you have to choose..
Re: guy-girl relationships AFTER shaadi
Well said
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I totally agree with decent 6chora…
Jitna bigari hui pind ki larkiyan hoti hein, i don’t think ke koi shehar ki or even abraod main bhi larkiyan hoti hon gi…the only difference is yahan sab kuch open hei, or wahan sab kuch chup ke hota hei…
so aap haqeeqat ki dunia main a jaein..they are not as innocent as they seem…pind ki larkian do haath aagay to ho sakti hein, lekin peeche nahi…
Re: guy-girl relationships AFTER shaadi
there is a fine line between friendliness and intimacy.
any body who crosses this line, deliberately or inadvertently is at a loss,
being near & in you spouse’s heart, we must know that the spouse can know it, will feel it and will see that and get hurt or the marriage will get hurt.
for the sake of keeping a good clean friendship, clean of any doubts and suspicions, it is better to mingle in the presence of your spouse only, rather than having to account for time spent with the friends, in her/his absence.
i think, after marriage, the best friend is your spouse. i look forward to a day when i can share my spouse's presence with my friends, and tell them how lucky i am that i am with that person (it is in some distant future:>, i hope)
friends, esp. opposite-gender friends from college, community or work, will themselves realize that she/ he is married and they will keep the communication and we should keep the communication transparent and healthy. platonic friendships are tricky and not healthy.
so, respect for others and for oneself will prevent anybody loyal to her/his spouse from looking for or pursuing an affair’s opportunity.
and, who would make a good dost, into a complicated triangle - every body loses.
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OH! But its okay if things are done in secret!! 
It’s only bad if it’s out in the open. Because you know, if our neighbors are doing it openly, then we’re all bad and maaaaaaadaaaraaaaaan and just bad ppl who will never find good desi guys..
Re: guy-girl relationships AFTER shaadi
sara, you misunderstood my point…when it is wrong, IT IS WRONG, whether done in secret or open. I was just replying to hussain’s statement that he is going to find a pind ki larki for him because they are innocent..i just meant to say they are not as innocent. It is just they do everything in secret and keep the label of being innocent.
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ok i see what u meant
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my honey wali wife already checked my cell phone contact list and said "agar mene kissi churail ka number is me dekha to me usko mar doon gi " 
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thats good, you can now keep the numbers and when you honey wali asks tu masoom sa mun bana ker kehna “tum nai churail k numbers rakhney ko mana keya tha, parioon (fairies) k nahi” 
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Indelibiblblibible, my freinds in clg always put guys names as grlz names.. so lets say Ash became Aisha, Salman bcame Salma, etc etc. :D
Re: guy-girl relationships AFTER shaadi
Bilkul sahi kaha hai aap ney
Pakistan ki ladhkiyaan sub se aage hai, choop choppaa ke subkuch hota hai wahaa humere liye sub open hai hum pher bhi un se better hai
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in case your friend become friends with Mustanser Hussain Tarar, what will she enter in her contact list 
