Re: Guy flirting with women
I think he might stop the day he becomes the father of a daughter himself.
they already have a daughter. the problem is that he would stop only if he realizes that this is wrong but his stance is that its just a harmless fun thing. when the wife reason him by telling that its morally wrong as well he says that the girls reciprocate him are no saints either so its not like he is destroying the lives of innocent girls and all.
Re: Guy flirting with women
On his defense, she knew his flirting habit from before marriage, he does it only with the girls he does not know personally, and any fling does not last for more than 10 days. That means that yes the habit is hurtful, but not harmful to the marriage. It's a matter of concern, but not a threat.
Like it or not, the solution is getting closer to the religion. She needs to initiate going to mosque for at least maghrib or isha prayers as family. If that is not possible then do jamaat at home and ask him to lead the prayers. If there is a Dars, potluck, fund raising or any social event in the mosque, attend it as a family. If tablighi jamaat or some scholar is visiting your mosque, invite them over for dinner at your place. This all needs to be done as a family, not because she needs a more religious company, but he does, and he would not do it alone.
I have seen miracles happening in people's life once they are in more religious associations. I am not saying that he should grow beard and she needs hijab or stop watching tv or listening to music. Do all that, but bring as much religion in daily life as you can. And she needs to keep it subtle, not obvious that oh I need to save my hubby from evil habits.
thanks TLK, ur advice make sense. both of them are moderate religious with a hip kinda lifestyle. so may be doing the jaamtt at home or him leading the jamat seems near to impossible. but yes, i agree she needs to do these things although this will require too much effort on her part but may be this will bring a positive change in her life.
Re: Guy flirting with women
I'd agree with that. It'll start with a casual hello hi. Flirting in a joking manner and then it'll take a whole new turn and god knows what will happen next. He has a daughter and I'm sure a very loving wife. I don't think there is anything that is missing from his life, that he needs to flirt with every other random girl he comes across on FB for instance. He should seek help regarding his behaviour.
It starts with the text message then phone call which will lead to secretive harmful things in future. I think you guys should stop him before he asks for more freedom. I am sorry but this will develop into something more and the answer will remain the same that he can't control himself.
Re: Guy flirting with women
Ahem
Missed it....:D