Have come onto the forum after a few days, having being busy with Eid.
Have read n replied to a few posts. But it has really upset me today that so many people r having issues with parents, inlaws, abusive husbands. How can people get away with treating others so badly? It’s making my blood boil.
What is happening in this world??
Have people forgotten to treat others how they would like to be treated??
Have they forgotten that they r gonna die n have to give hisar kitab to Allah on day of judgement?
Have come onto the forum after a few days, having being busy with Eid.
Have read n replied to a few posts. But it has really upset me today that so many people r having issues with parents, inlaws, abusive husbands. How can people get away with treating others so badly? It's making my blood boil.
What is happening in this world??
1. Have people forgotten to treat others how they would like to be treated??
2. Have they forgotten that they r gonna die n have to give hisar kitab to Allah on day of judgement?
it's all about 'deen se doorii' and they have been raised.
Allah says: “Be sure we shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods, lives and the fruits (of your toil) but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere. Those who, when misfortune strikes them, say: ‘Indeed we belong to Allah and to Him is our return. Those are the ones upon whom are blessings and mercy from their Lord and it is those who are rightly guided.” Surah Baqarah: 155-157]
This is life as Allah mentions in the Quran. We all have to face tests and trials in our life but the ones who are steadfast in the deen shall be rewarded. It may make you upset reading about all the unfortunate stories in this section and I can tell you that I have read lots of them as well and have the same feelings. Things don't always work out the way we want them to and people are not what they say they are and that's ok. If it were like that then the dunya would be jannah. There would be no sorrow or pain but, that's not reality.
And as for thinking how people can get away with certain actions, I used to think about this all the time. These feelings and thoughts come to us when we are very hurt. We sometimes forget that whenever something inflicts us, it's to make us stronger. These things were meant to happen to us. We can often learn from the most difficult and painful situations that are thrown to us. Allah will make things better for these people as He is the most just and things do get better. A difficult situation could be seen as a means to come closer to Allah, it may take some of our sins away or it may be that Allah wants to give us something better in return.
I suppose I forgot this, thanks for reminding me n helping me understand that this is life n these r the trials we r given by Allah. I just got so down yesterday after reading what some people go through.
we care abou family, parents best friends, spouses and sibling. when they do something you were not expecting then it will hurt you hence the compalin about them.
When a stranger mistreat you..a colleague..a officer at bank or a shopkeeper...you dont care so you dont complain about it either.
it's just how life is.
Also some people are actually mean and deliberatly want our bad, however others will mean well from their point of view but we take it bad as we all have different ways of handling/judging people.
I agree with OP. Although I believe that it's not as far removed from us as the stories in the threads. We encounter idiotic behavior in our own lives too. Yes, it's part of life...nobody's denying that...but the funny thing is that we don't get immune to it do we? It still doesn't fail to appall, disgust and anger us each time. I guess that's a good thing...as it means that we haven't become entirely numb to transgressions. I also agree with OP that lack of iman is a big factor.
**jaise sonaa aag kii bhaTTii meN tap tap ke kundan bantaa hai vaise hii aadmii [mard aur 'aurat] aazmaaishoN kii chakkii meN pis pis ke insaan ban ke nikaltaa hai.
