Ladies, how would you feel if your husband won’t celebrate valentine’s day. I haven’t really been into this stuff for all the years I’ve lived here in the US because I don’t feel that a made up event like this should serve as a measure of how much one loves his wife.
As a newlywed I’m pondering the question weather I should do something like bring in roses or eat out or something. I mean I would bring her roses and go eat out anytime, but does it really have to be on this event? Even though I’m not into it, I don’t want to disappoint her either. I guess what I want to know is how would she feel if I don’t do anything special on valentine’s day. I’d rather get a general feedback from you all rather than ask her this question directly since I think she’ll probably hide her true feelings. Plus, if most of you guppans feel that doing something special on valentine’s day is important to you, I might take your word for it and surprise her that day ;~)
Certainly Sky, go ahead and surprise her, especially since you are a newly wed couple. Yes you can do all that nice stuff any other day of the year then why not do it on valentines day too? She will only love you more if you make her feel special. In the end it is you who will benefit ;)
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As a newlywed I’m pondering the question weather I should do something like bring in roses or eat out or something. I mean I would bring her roses and go eat out anytime, but does it really have to be on this event? Even though I’m not into it, I don’t want to disappoint her either. I guess what I want to know is how would she feel if I don’t do anything special on valentine’s day. I’d rather get a general feedback from you all rather than ask her this question directly since I think she’ll probably hide her true feelings. Plus, if most of you guppans feel that doing something special on valentine’s day is important to you, I might take your word for it and surprise her that day ;~)
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Take her out, buy her a rose out of spunk while walking or passing the market/mall then take her to a nice restaurant. no harm in that, just don't make it a ritual every year the same thing.
Do all that (dinner, roses, gift etc) on the 13th this year to show that you are willing to shower her with attention every day of the year, but couldn't be bothered to take Feb 14 as a ritual every year just because the local departmental store has stocked itself silly with Ribbons, and hearts and chocolates.
ps.. sorry, I didn't notice that the thread is only for ladies. All those dudes who posted above this post...blame them for the slip! :~)
Do everything and anything to make her feel special :)
Take her our, roses, chocs...whatnots!!
14th day makes even a wilted plant all the more remarkable to have. So don't try the other day formula as Faisal bhai would have you do hehe...i would be mad for sure :p
I dont celebrate Valentines day. If I had someone special, I wouldnt expect him to get me anything for Valentines. I would give him gifts on other days, or even this day, but not on a yearly basis so as to celebrate this particular day for that specific purpose(of St. Valentines day).
Your concern should be in maintaining happiness througout the year with your wife, as it should be your wife's concern regarding you. I find that women are very, how do you say... flexible and understanding.
If you are worried that she may be expecting something, and you decide not to buy her special flowers or whatever, talk to her on that night, and ask her if she was expecting anything, and if she was, let her know that you want to show her everyday that you love her, it doesnt have to be this one day just because everyone else is doing it on this day. Communication is key.
To feel pressured into doing something you dont want to do (as in giving flowers on this date) defeats the whole purpose. It should come from the heart.
FF - I was thinking around the same line that since we’re newlyweds, we should do something extra special this day.
Coco - good ideas.
You're right, no need to make it a habit of celebrating the event every year. Rather make it a night out with some surprise elements to it.
Faisal - :~) Since it’s Friday night, maybe we can call it a weekend night out. I’ll remember this tip for future years to come :~)
DD – Don’t get mad. Jaisa aap ne kaha wohee karein ge…khush? :)
Munni – You are absolutely right…communication is the key.
I wouldn’t be pressured to go if we end up going. Its more of that it doesn’t hold as much value to me as it might to her. So whether we go or not, I’m cool with it either way :~)
just do it. take the special lady in your life out for a nice, romantic dinner and/or shower her with roses, gifts, whatever your little heart desires for her. be romantic on this day meant for romance. it’s important that you show her that even though you love her the other 364 days of the year, THIS day is ESPECIALLY significant as it is meant for LOOOOOOVE.
