Gunaah?

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I dont know if this is the right forum to post, if not then feel free to move it to the right one.

I heard some time ago that if the nikaah is done, the rukhsati should be done in maximum a year. Otherwise it would be “gunaah” to the parents of the bride and groom. When I asked this person for sources, he didn’t know either. I’ve never ever heard about this or something similar, so don’t know what to think about it. So could anyone put some light on this in views of Islam? If you could give the source for your replies as well, it would be a great help.

Thanks in advance.

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According to my understanding If it is a mutual accord then there is no harm ( i.e reasons being education, displacement etc). If one party forcing it on other without their consent then it is a sin.

There is no time constrant according to my knowledge but Islmaically, Husband and wife should be united ASAP.

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& some grooms-to-be are afraid of committing as they are not ready to be grooms.
they have utter disregard for feelings and noble bonding of the women they conveniently propose and take the proposal back from a distance, without proper closure
their hearts and minds are not one but deceitful.
they cannot respect awarded regard and trust placed in them.
their families will stop short of nothing than to keep them unmarried, even after they seeminly offer the sacred words of a proposal.
such men are shoppers who do not have the heart to return to face the hurt they cause and the deep impression of their character's inability to be forth right that they leave behind them.
their personal weaknesses of mis judgements, and unfounded suspicions are forever inscribed on their faces.

& yet they have the nerve to say, that they are religious.

dushwari

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So if education is the reason, it's allowed to stay nikaahfied without rukhsati for years? In this one case I know, they're nikaahfied for over one and a half year now... And the girls education will take minimum a year from now on.. What does Islam says about rukhsati anyways? Any guidelines?

Dushwari, you could be right to some extent.. but for this specific case girl and boy both love eachother, so I think it's not really relevant.

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whats the sense in doing the nikah if the parties dont want to do the rukhsati ?
Lack of trust ?
They think the other party will change their minds if they dont do the nikah right away
Why cant they just wait, till the problems (prohibiting the rukhsati) are taken care of

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marriage must always take place as soon as is decided upon and that means, the bride and the groom getting together as a lawfully wed couple and going to their own home.

it is not Islam that says that marry and then live apart.
if any thing, if the marital contract is the seal for wedding two people. then, honoring that marital contract means, living like a couple as well.
i am not an expert on religion, but using common sense, it is only logical to say that education and career of the wife and/or husband come secondary.

dushwari

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In this perticular case the sense of nikah is to give the relationship an official status, as just an engagement wasn't enough. It had been a long time since the girl and guy liked together and even though their parents had talked about it officially, people kept seeing it wrong. But both, girl and guy are studying. so it will most probably take more than a year yet for rukhsati. About this "gunaah" thing is just what I heard from someone else and am applying it on them to give an example. But I don't know what's true about it.