I’m kinda, okay not kinda but REALLY gullible.. i’ve fallen for stupid jokes which we all had a nice laugh at afterwards and I’ve also fallen for some jokes that pissed me off and still make me angry even after apologies… its come ot the point where I dont know who to trust anymore. .. I’m a manipulative, chalaak churail’s dream 
… now… am i stuck being a dumbass, is it so engrained into my personality that I’m too trusting and wudn’t think that anyone had a reason to lie to me or be mean or can i remedy this? I dont wanna turn into a cold hearted witch but if ppl keep on being stupid assholes well I just can’t fix that now can I 
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u actualy sound so cuuuuute some times :)
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Sara, sweety, what is going on??? Last time i talked to you which was last night, you were fine???? You are a sweet person. Stay the way you are but be more careful with theese chalaak loomri type ppl. Don't change your innocent self for some morons. But, you do have to learn clever ways to deal with these monsters.
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Sometimes its cute adn funny and other times it can be really dangerous… Mahru, nothing specific happened, but I do think too much and htis has been bugging me for a while…like a few yrs ago, one of my friends told me he was from Jamaica ( Queesn).. now stupid me somehow got it into my head that he meant Jamaica the country, it was funny hehehehe
another time, it still pisses me of when i think bout it, a friend told me she and her family was under investigation for something and omg I was soooooo worried and upset and really scared and she knew I was really upset and in fact I read namaz and made duah for her and the next day, she said.. “there’s an april fool and there’s an august fool… today you are the august fool”… she apologized wen she realized how pissed i was but its not enough.. im still angry abt it whenever I remember …
last yr another friend got these ideas into my head that my guy friend somehow liked me , even though she never spoke to him and she cudn’t be further from the truth.. but by that time damage was done ..now some ppl say she did it on purpose coz shes the type of grl thats always had guys chase her, aunties begging for her rishta and non-desi guys givin her gifts etc but I dunno…she seems really innocent and even if she did it on purpose i wud prolly forgive her, but I dunno.. who to trust anymore..
So hwo do i fix itttttttttttttttttt
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Sara, use your brain in these situations. Don' t take everything for its face value. You will get better with time. But, you have to look at the bright side. YOu were so kind to pray for her while all she did was make a fool out of you. It just shows how kind you are.
Try to analyze everything before believing everything that comes out of ones mouth.
Trust me you are young and naive but wisdom comes with age;)
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awww sara...u sound so sweet :)
well sweety i dont know what to tell you. You are who you are...i wouldnt change it. Just try to stay away from ppl that take advantage of you because obviously they arent your friends to begin with.
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Mahru I swear I wanted to slap that cow’s face when she had that ugly smirk on it. I’ve some blonde moments n they’re quite funny, but i’m not complaining about those.
Looking at some of hte guy problems I’ve had, I’m lucky lucky lucky that it hasn’t been worse, and honestly it’s not hte guy stuff that bothers me anymore coz i’m not THAT stupid (“Oh baby yes i love you, and I wanna marry you” 
), it’s friends, who to trust, who not to trust.
I should go into hiding and be a hermit
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just be cautious before trusting ppl…not everyone tells the truth as you already know. I agree with Mahru…take time to analyze what they are saying before believing them right away.
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Sara: and refrain from telling every friend about your likes, desires, and personal life. Once you disclose all that, the ones who are not your friend will come back to haunt you with all that information. I am pretty sure the reason the loomri girl put that idea in your head is because maybe you mentioned he was cute or that you were interested in marriage or something like that.
I know ppl who will make a house out of a single brick. All they need to know is single piece of information and will add the rest as if it is their duty.
So, first of all just avoid telling your friends everything that happens in your life. If you really need to disclose stuff come to GS and let it all out;) in your journal, ofcourse.
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very good advice…dont ever disclose too much information. When you tell ppl everything about yourself you put urself in a very vulnerable situation.
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I still dunno bout that girl… but last yr i stopped talking to her, i stopped talking to a LOT of people for no reason and that she mighta done it on purpose didnt evne occurr to me until recently… and even then it’s like, well if seh did then Allah will deal with her, no need to accuse her of something and ruining a friendship on the chance that she’s innocent… and as for specifics of what happened… well ill tell u later 
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Yeah but what about something like… your name?? I mean I’ve even had someone lie to me abou twhat their name was and i only found out 8 months later when we were gonna meet some friends and eh said “oh btw my real name is, so dont get all confused when u hear it”… 
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wow! u come across the worst kind of ppl…im sowwie
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Sara kiddo, you worry too much. Your heart is in the right place, but I dont know where your mind is (j/k). Dont worry about stupid little snide remarks or jokes, you are a good person and are doing the right thing. Ignore the crap and move on.
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I know I worry :( And those stupid snide lil remarks... they can be really damaging as proven :(
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Dont take them seriously....you know how silly that august fool thingy is...In my opinion she is the fool for making up crap like that. Learn it from the best ....yep that will be me...you have to let it go.....
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muahahahahahahahahaha!!! sorry thats just soo funny!
thats kind of a lame august fool in my opinion. My cousins and friends have pulled so much better ones on me. I’ve pulled some on them too. you should have told her its a third grade style august fool instead of getting pissed.
well I see no reason why anyone would purposedly say something like that and mean you harm. She probably did think so. sometimes people even say it to find out if there is something going on between u two… u know like if they see u two hanging out they say something like “i think he likes u” so that you can go all blushy blushy and spill the beans.
I agree with the fact that you should NEVER disclose anything personal…trust me i learned the HARD HARD way…I trusted my childhood best friends, they broke my trust. i trusted my best friend in school, she broke my trust. but I’ve stopped taking this personally becuz i’ve realized that when u tell someone a secret u have given a part of your freedom to them----cool advice from my cool grandma.
also realize that although it is important to be nice, u dont have to be nice to everyone…rather than waste time on those that dont care abt you, its better to only be extra nice to those that sincerely care about u.
ajj ka lecture khatam hoa phir milenge break ke baad…