guilt is killing me; severely depressed

[Le_Pakistan]

Re: guilt is killing me; severely depressed

@pkgrl000

Re-read then. OP decided not to breastfeed BECAUSE her 4 yr old kept complaining about not being loved anymore. The guilt stems from the idea that the second child is taking love away from the first. Sure, the decision of the OP to not breastfeed is adding to the guilt. But what is your proposed solution? give teh OP reasons to not feel guilty about not breastfeeding simply because the first child will be offended? wouldn’t you rather go to the root of the problem, which is that child #1 feels left out and mom feels guilty because of this new sharing of love and attention between 2 children, so that BOTH children get the love and attention they deserve?

I didn’t say anything against your solutions.

She decided to not breastfeed becasue of her 4 years old. But the guilt is for not breastfeeding, and not for having another kid. And that is what your post suggested.

Anyways, OP, everything will be alright. Involve your 4 years old in activities with the newborn and she will be allright, in sha ALLAH.